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writes:In June of my girlfriend of many years left me for another man,It was painful and traumatic. Three months later we made contacted and started the process of talking and seeing each other occasionally ,while she is still with him. Things progressed well enough that we were saying we love each other and being physical ,without sex.Dec 3 I was not able to keep a date with her and she freaked .She told me she was re thinking everyhting and she was wrong for what she was doing to her current guy. She was confused. She has since stopped seeing me and talks online in a couple of emails a day , No romantic talk anymore . No promise of anything...Can I get her to open up her heart to me again?I tried to explain and rationalize that we had one misunderstanding, but she didnt want to hear it. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2011): you realize that she is cheating on her boyfriend, with you. Therefore you shouldn't be trying to get her to open up to you, because she's technically still in a relationship with someone else. If she wants you, she knows where to find you.besides, she left you for him meaning she had probably been cheating on you with him. And now she's cheating on him with you. this girl has issues so it's best to not be involved with her.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (16 December 2011):
Hi there. When you ended your relationship, was it caused by a big argument?
Did she want to get serious but you didn't?
Perhaps she was looking for something in a relationship that you couldn't give her.
Unless you can clarify this at least to yourself, it's going to be very difficult to resolve.
For now though, it might be wise to give her some space because she sounds unsure of what she wants.
And because she initiated the breakup, also let her initiate any contact. If she doesn't email, text or call you, well then don't you contact her either.
She's still with this other man, and yet she is also in casual contact with you.
You might know what you want from a relationship with her, however she probably doesn't.
If she likes this other man so much, then why is she still talking to you? What would be the point?
The only point that comes to mind, is that she obviously still has feelings for you.
Only time will tell.
You can't force the issue, so you will just have to be patient and in the meantime, get on with your own life.
Start circulating again and make some new friends.
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