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anonymous
writes:I have dated this guy for 2 months. It was a mess at first. Basically he dated me and my friend at the same time. I didn't know about this until my friend told me after a week.I talked to him and he said because we were not BF and GF yet so he could see other girls. He said now he made up his mind to see me exclusively. Since then, he only see my her as a friend.Recently a friend told me that she saw him flirting with a girl in a bar. I asked him if it was true. He said he didn't flirt with any other girl. A few day ago, I notice there are girls text him often. Once I saw a message says that she was upset when she found out he has a girlfriend (me) and she liked him even though she was just his one night stand.So obviously she was his one night stand! But I don't know when they did it, before or after he met me.They still text each other.He said he is in love with me. He gives me a lot of attention. He also told his parents about me (they live in another country). Other things I concern about are that he introduces me by my name to his friends and he plans to move to another country next year.What should I think about this? Do you think I can expect commitment from him?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (21 September 2012):
 you don't trust him
he's moving to a different country in a year
he has many women friends that he keeps hidden from you
I would not expect commitment from this man.
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reader, SensitiveBloke +, writes (21 September 2012):
 You wanna be with someone who's cheating on you? Get a grip, seriously, and get shot of him immediately!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2012): Right off the get go you're not sure if you can trust him, he was playing his options between you and your friend. Afterwards he texts a lot of chicks and your friend says she saw him flirting. Based on what that girl said in those texts, what she said would make more sense if she slept with him while you two were together. Think about it, if she liked him and knew he had a girlfriend, why would she take herself through heartbreak. Unless she kept interested in him from over two months ago and didn't know? you be the judge.He seems untrustworthy and much harder is coming up if you decide to have a long distance relationship. It's only been two months, my advice is that you save yourself a lot of heartache and get out before it gets to hard.
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reader, kellyO +, writes (21 September 2012):
 Hi,
Is obvious you don't trust him and I think you have reasons not to. Your relationship is still very young and I am afraid it hasn't been built on a solid foundation right from start. Although two months relationship is still very young to expect some real commitment but your are correct to think that he shouldn't have dated your friend while dating you or flirt with other girls. You are together now in the same place and he isn't showing you can trust him do you really think there will be more commitment when he is away in another country? I have seen long distance relationship work but usually the couple would have been together for some time, trust and love each completely and are having to come up with plans to be together in the same place in the near future. Don't you think it is better to start dating someone else who isn't planning to move away when the relationship is just starting and who you can trust some more.
Kelly
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2012): In my opinion I'd get rid of him ASAP. If he disrespects you now by flirting with other girls he well continue doing it. I bet he is treating you as a pastime girl. Think about it, he knows he is leaving. Why not have a pussy secured until he moves.
You need to move on to be with someone that doesn't make you feel insecure or worried. Love does not hurt, and love isn't meant to make people suffer
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