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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for almost four years. we loved each other so much and it was a long distance relationship. In fall 2010 he decided to end the relationship because he thought we were arguing and he says we were two different people. I begged him but he wont listen to me. i agreed with him and i was in pain the whole time because i missed him. After two months he came back and says wants to see me becasue he missed me and i said ok. after that things wasn't going the way i wanted them and we were aguing and fought again. After that we saw each other two times and he told me it wans't working for him. I asked him after three weeks what his problem was and he told me that he found informations about me on the internet. and he told me that he can see a lot of things even though he is long distance. I asked him what he found and he says he can't trust me and it wouldn't matter whether he tells me or not. i asked him again and he told me he loves me and he misses me but can't be with me because he saw a lot of things. I asked him again to tell what he saw and he says that he wasn't happy the way people was commenting on y facebook pictures and a friend of mine gave me a comment on face and says he wasn't happy about it. I am really confuse because he can't fight me because people commented on y facebook pics. please help me its been only a week since i talk to him . i asked him if he wants to talk or try a counslor but he doesn't want a relationship with me at all. he already said goodluck but I am still in love with him and it hurts. i really want to fix it . please help me. is he jealous or can he find other stuff about me on the internet because that is the only thing he told me . the face book thing. please i need your help
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2011): sometimes love is just gone.. but the other person still insist on the 'reasons' why..? i guess he cannot find any other reason but this.. this is less hurtful than saying 'i simply dont love you anymore'.. accept it and let him go.. be the classy girl and keep ur distance from him.. meaning dont call or email.. if he calls, pls dont answer it.. juz focus on yourself, family n friends.. pursue ur hobby and ambitions.. go to gym n have fun in dancing class.. that helped me a lot to get over my previous ex.. now am ok and relieved its over.. good luck (",)
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (11 September 2011):
 Have you tried googling your name to see if anything else comes up?
What were you two arguing about in the beginning?
I see him breaking up with you because for whatever reason he doesn't trust you. In which if you take the trust out of the relationship, the relationship will soon fall apart. Sounds like he's jealous of people's comments, or it's just an excuse to dump you again.
It's over with, just let him go, cut off contact and do your best to move on. Shouldn't be that hard because it was a LDR. Out of sight, out of mind.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2011): I don't think is there anything you can do, he doesn't want a relationship with you, and the more you try to fix it so he does want one, the more he won't want to be with you. The best advice that I can give you is to respect that he doesn't want one and show him that you respect his decision, go out with friends and show him that your moving on. In my experience, showing that that you respect their decision despite how much it hurts and showing them that you are trying to move on, can make them have second thoughts about breaking up with you. It is hard and hurts a lot, but begging them to stay or trying to fix the problems when they aren't willing to fix them will only drive him away.I am sorry to say you can't fix it without his help, and he is not willing to fix it. Give him some time and space, and get on with your life, if you are meant to be with him you will be. Good Luck. I am sorry that you are hurting and I hope this helps.
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