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writes:This isn't a totally serious question, and is somewhat tongue in cheek ;o) buuuuuuuuuuuuuuuut...Went to my childs parents evening last night and quite liked one of his teachers! I picked up a bit of chemistry. Funnily enough, when me and my child got in the car to go home, told me they thought their teacher liked me as theyve never seen him with that twinkle in his eye! I said now you come to mention it! hahaNot that i would do anything about it, but it had me wondering what the law was on anything like that? Obviously i know teachers and pupils are a no no, what about teachers and parents of pupils? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2013): I'm in a similar situation right now with his phys- ed teacher. Yes, it depends on the frustration levels and maturity of the teacher in dealing with a particular student ,whose mother he fancies. I have seen the extremes...going from too much fawning over my son,to the opposite :-time outs/yelling /explosive anger directed towards him and the class in general(elementary school)when he feels ignored by me. Eventhough our relationship hasnt been totally consomated (passionate eyes phase) I can see that it could get messy if it were to actually be consomated,at least where this teacher is concerned. So maturity/self-control is the key and in my situation,he could be just too young,frustrated and amourous...for it to work ethically.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2008): All you have to do is wait a year or half year until your child is no longer in the teacher's class. Then I see no ethical conflict at all.
Good things come to those who wait!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2008): Thanks for the answers everyone. Apreciate them all.
C Xxxxxx
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reader, whateveryousay  +, writes (23 May 2008):
 that is really interesting. im not exactly old enough to be taken seriously (im under 18) but i think that would be seriously embarrassing to the kid. (sorry)
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reader, bemused  +, writes (23 May 2008):
 Hi there.
I know your question was tongue in cheek but it is a good one. There is no law that teachers cannot date their kids parents. It is not considered professional but...people are only human after all and it does happen. The problem is that, more often that not it ends in a train wreck for someone, someone gets hurt or a career is compromised. This does not happen all the time. I do not doubt that there are some happy endings but I have only ever seen heartache coming from this. Hope this helps.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (23 May 2008):
 No law preventing it but personally there would have to be a serious drought in the man-kind dept. to contemplate jumping on my children's teacher...imagine the next parent's evening if you get 'friendly' and things don't work out?
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reader, Uncle Sneaker +, writes (23 May 2008):
 Absolutely no problem with it at all.
I'm a little surprised to hear it is frowned upon in Canada. I don't see how anyone could consider it a "conflict of interest". That most certainly is NOT the case in the UK.
There are plenty of kids who go to the same schools where their parents teach, and yes, a few of them find it a little embarrassing. I don't think it's any real problem for the child - and in fact any embarrassment pales into total insignificance beside an adolescent's own loves and crushes. If there's anyone out there considering it seriously, then go for it. There's nothing to stop you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSome interesting answers! Thanks. Jez and Bemused, honest, i was only asking hypathetically?(sp)
The guy could be married, engaged, dating already, it really was a tongue in cheek thing. And had me wondering what the laws were on it. I know doctors code of ethics wont accept it. Wondered if it was a similar thing for teachers. Child is 13. He would dissown me honest! hahaha
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reader, jezman +, writes (23 May 2008):
 me, being a teenager, would find that very strange if my single parent were to go out with my teacher. i dont think i would actually mind but how old is your child?
i can understand how it would be steryotypicaly embarrasing for a child if their parent were to date a teacher but i think the real problem is in what the effects are at school.
if the teacher is suddenly biast towards your child because the teacher thinks that he can make a good impression if he is extra kind to your child then that may make a bad impression on the child to his/her friends.
if this happens then your child's friends may start to generate a certain dislike about it.
BUT if the teacher carries on as normal then there should be less problems. it is a tough decision but i think you will have to find out how the teacher will react when you are dating before you take it further.
how old is the child?
how do you think the child will react?
jez x
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reader, bemused +, writes (23 May 2008):
Hello my dear.
I am a high school teacher. Here is what I know. Most teachers federations(the union to which teachers belong) make it pretty clear that people in the teaching field are already vulnerable to so much and not to pursue anything that would be a 'conflict of interest'. The idea of you, a parent of a child he has in his class being in a romantic relationship with you would be a conflict of interest. It might be a different scenerio if your child were not in his class. Things could get messy for him if the word around the water cooler was that he was dating a parent. He might then have to be transferred to another school and this issue would follow him.
I wish the public would understand that teaching today takes so much and teachers are vulnerable to so many accusations. A case in point might be the number of letters on this site regarding infatuated students with their teachers. I know that we are experiencing a shortage of guys wanting to teach, especially at the high school level.
I do not want to be a killjoy but I would let this one go. Think about the position you would put your child in here and perhaps look elsewhere.
Good luck hun
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (23 May 2008):
 like susan said. Two adults + both single = possible relationship.
BUT keep it quite as it could be embarrasing for your child
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reader, Susan Strict +, writes (23 May 2008):
 Of course you can date your child's teacher, assuming there aren't other reasons that would make a relationship difficult or impossible (like he's married, or you are).
But... your child is just going to be SO embarrassed!! Can you imagine some of the comments there are going to be among the kids? Children as so wicked to each other about anything like.
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