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writes:Im 15 and pregant by my boyfriend who is 16. I want us to live togather and he does too but his mom wont let him. Can she realy keep us from living togather? I think he should have a right to live with me and his baby. Also what would happen if he just move in any ways? Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2010): Unless both of you are planning on having steady jobs moving in isn't your best option right now. I'm assuming he's be moving into your parents house? Try to compromise. Maybe when the baby comes he can stay with you for a week or so. But you are so young and living with a new baby and a 16 year old boyfriend might be to much stress for you to handle. It's also an easy way to get pregnant again and I know you don't want that.Babies are a beautiful gift, but they can be a handful.
Wait 6 months to a year to test the waters. You and your boyfriend might end up breaking up and having him live with you could be hard if he ends up leaving. I'm not trying to be a drag, I just think its time to face reality and grow up a little bit.
Legally he is still the responsibility of his mother so if she says no, then its a no. If he moves in anyway you could risk loosing his mother which might not mean much to you, but your child deserves to have both sides of grandparents.
Just think about things a little bit more realistically before you make any final decisions.
Good Luck!
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (11 December 2010):
 This really is a legal question. And as so often is the case it varies from state to state. In my state he would have to live wherever his parent of guardian says, unless the same guardian had emancipated him. This is en forcible by law so he could be forcibly returned home or placed in state care, up until his eighteenth birthday. The same would be true for you.
As far as a practical solution, you have a few trimesters to work something out between all the interested parties. At 15 you are going to need all the support you can get.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2010): Reminds me of Eric Segal's Daddy!
Well, honestly, if I were his mom I wouldn't have let him live with you too. Not because I am a demon but because my son is not old enough to take care of himself forget you and your baby!
Yeah, he has the right to live with you and your baby provided he is at least 21 years of age. Thats when you will have your senses open scientifically.
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