A
female
age
30-35,
*onfusedWITHlove
writes:Me and my fiance have been together for about 6 years years, we have a three year old daughter, and im pregnant again. We split up awhile ago, and during that he slept with someone else. We are better now, and i have never been happier with him. but know matter what i do i cant get him turned on... Why? is it because sleeping with her was better? someone please help. I feel like im not good enough anymore. he tells me hes just tierd. but i know its bull. Could he still be sleeping with her? can someone please help explain this to me honestly.
View related questions:
fiance, split up Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, clare6085  +, writes (12 December 2010):
he may be embarrassed at the fact he went limp. and you dont know the same thing might of happend with the other girls and hes just not telling you.
A
female
reader, ConfusedWITHlove +, writes (11 December 2010):
ConfusedWITHlove is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have made myself look beautiful! trying different ways, im not a sad puppy.. I do everything i can to turn him on to make him wanna have sex with me. sometimes while were having sex he goes "limp" and cant get hard again. it makes me feel like im doing something wrong. We have had sex twice this month and both times he went "limp" The break-up happend about 7 months ago... and i know hes not worried about hurting me while im pregnant... do you think im just over looking it? Thanks for the advice.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2010): i have had a very similar experience, as my boyfriend slept with another person. we are back together. he smoked alot of weed and blames that on why he doesnt want alot of sex, but i know it hurts so much. my best advice is dont pressure him or go on about it, wait for him to iniate sex with you. it may take time but he wil feel shocked you havnt tried.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2010): The reason your having this problem is because you haven't gotten over the fact that your man slept with someone else. When we aren't the only one in our significant other's life, especially their sex life we begin to compare ourselves to them and become insecure. And trust me your man can sense your insecurity. (Men have like a 6th sense about insecure women.) This is why he has been turning you down. Men don't want to sleep with a sad puppy, they want a raunchy sex kitten girl!
My advice to you would be this: the next time you want to have sex with him, make it sexy. Fix your hair and your make-up put on something that makes YOU FEEL BEAUTIFUL. Then seduce him like only you can. He has been with you for six years after all, you are the only one who knows him inside and out.
You might ask yourself when would you have time with a young daughter and another child on the way. Well sometimes parents have to make time! For themselves! Send her to the grandparents or whoever you trust to keep her for a night. A bad sex life can ruin a marriage so bring back the excitement and romance.
Good Luck! And remember you must be confident whatever you decide to do.
:)
...............................
A
female
reader, No watered down advice here! +, writes (11 December 2010):
 HONESTY...I think another woman has nothing to do with you not being able
to turn him on. You mentioned you’re “Never been “HAPPIER” when our men are sleeping with another woman, WE ARE NOT HAPPY! Ijs! So that’s not it! He said he’s just “TIRED” that’s not it either! I think he’s afraid of hurting you while you’re pregnant is what I’m leaning towards. I’m wondering did the break up happen during your last pregnancy or shortly after?
...............................
|
