A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:My ex left me because I couldn't trust him. He would always give me reasons not to..he loved the attention from girls and would flirt with them constantly on facebook and we broke up the first time because he was not over his ex girlfriend. All of this made me feel insecure and unwanted, i was heartbroken. Then a month later he wanted me back and made a real effort and because i still loved him we tried again..it started off well but then he went to uni and i started a job which i hated. i live with my strict parents too which didn't help the situation because i had to always lie to go see him. I would always be the one who went to see him as he wasn't allowed to come to my family home, i always did so much for him too. He was good to me as he did try to make me happy but he still couldn't resist having that female attention and would still stay in touch with people he promised me he wouldn't. He then started to resent me for getting in the way of his "uni" life and i would get so depressed and paranoid as i was alone at home while he was always with his housemates having fun and when i went to see him he only wanted to do his work. Till eventually last week it was the final straw he broke a promise of not keeping in touch with certain people, I got upset and then he left me. He is now seeing other girls already and got in touch with his ex again. I am now left feeling heartbroken, depressed and insecure. I don't know what to do with myself, I am unable to see my friends frequently,I hate my job, haven't got a lot money to do stuff with and feel trapped at home...I don't know how to get through this...
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 I believe what you are asking is what to do next. The relationship was a mess, your life is a mess. You are 22 and not living where you want to and not working where you want to and not being with who you want to be with. It is time for you to take responsibility for your own life. Through wrong actions or inaction you have placed yourself in this untenable position. All you have to do is make the right actions to get yourself out.
1) Don't quit your job.
2) Do look for a better job.
3) Don't get back with the boy.
4) Do find a person you can trust.
5) Start looking for your own place to live.
6) Don't let your parents treat you like you were 15 (unless you are).
When you make your own money and live under your own roof, your parents will see you as an adult.
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