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writes: Firstly,sorry for the long question.My bf of 3 years recently kissed another girl. He was always completely against cheating and would be really disgusted if any of his friends cheated on theiir gf. He's v embarassed and confused at mo because he was positive that he'd never do such a thing.He told me 2 days after he kissed her, she was a girl from work at a christmas party, he was drunk and doesn't know how it happened.The thing is I do forgive him, I know it was a dreadful mistake to make but i know he meant no harm plus although i want to be mad I can't help but love him to pieces!I meet him yesterday to exchange our things, all you could say was that he was really sorry. When i asked him was that all he could say he said that he did want to get back with me, he loved me so much but he had ruined it all now and I'd never be able to trust him. I said I would but he said that everyone would keep bringing it up all the time and i won't trust him especially when everybody else was saying that i shouldn't!!!So we've broken up officially! The thing is i do genuinely forgive him but I think that mayber he mustn't love me as he kissed someone in the first place and then he just let me go without putting up the biggest fight for me!!i don't know what to do. I love him so very much, I'm the one being punished as well as him! I told him yesterday that I didn't want to talk to him until he got his head sorted out but we've already rung eachother 4 times!!! What do i do???He's very sensible, very very old fashioned and not one to express his emotions but I do know that he used to love me so so so much! Can you really fall out of love with people? if i don't answer my phone will he come running back? i really don't know how i can live without him! Please help!!!
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reader, deirde +, writes (2 December 2005):
Your ex is only human and yes he kissed somebody else but it probably wasn't a kiss because he liked her it was probably a drunken mistake that he regrets vey much. If he really did kiss her to hurt you then why would he be calling you and trying to get in contact with you. He still loves you and you love him, don't be apart and make yourselves unhappy. Sit down together and have a sensible adult conversation, listen to what each other has to say thats the best basis for a relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2005): He is only human!!! Everbody makes mistakes in life and he made a mistake. I could understand if you two were offically married, but your not. How do you really know if your the one if your the only one... Give him a break,okay..one day you might make a mistake and maybe he'll forgive you...good luck.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2005): Just another question, do I let him go even though it was genuinely so good? I know hes meant to be doing all the running seeing as he was the one who cheated but he's just not that kind of man, he doesn't think he deserves to be loved by me now. do i continue to answer his calls and ring him? Can I still tell him I ,love him? or do i just let him go and get on with my life because he cheated and once he cheated its an obvious sign that he doesn't want me anymore?? does cheating really mean that he doesn't want me?
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reader, chav123 +, writes (2 December 2005):
What you should do is ingore him for awhile like you said he will come running back when he lonley and when he is bored. Don't be the soft one by you go running back. Let he do the running and instead you do the talking. Stand up to him but if he comes beggin give him another chance good luck to everything
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