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writes:hey guys, i' stuck ina rut here. i love my girlfriend with a passion but find it hard to trust her. she has a few male friends who she says are just "friends" but i know that she has had feelings for them in the recent past. she lies about her text messages, by saying they are from her sister but then we cuddle and i can clearly see her texting a male and she often meets up with a whole range of guys. she's not a sl*t and has never behaved like it, but im not sure if i can trust her which is a bugger as i was planning on proposing to her next month on the anniversary of my dads death. But how can i trust her when she lies about who's on the phone! she always speaks to her ex's online and i really try to act as if i'm not bothered, but when i try to tell her how i feel,she gets defensive and we have an argument and i end up apologising for bringing it up. i'm just wondering what to do, and if anyone has experienced simalar things. any feedback considered helpful, thankyou all so much.
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reader, mdizzlefosizzle  +, writes (24 April 2009):
Dude, srsly..I'm in the same situation. My gf lies about everything. It makes it impossible to believe ne thing they say is the truth huh? I even caught a myspace message to a guy she had sex with in the past saying she would hang out him, but claims she never would and didn't for that matter. She calls me controlling, but I tell its hard to be ok with things when everything is a lie. But I really love her a lot and I know u prob do too. Hang in there but keep ur guard up. Always check her phone when she is away. Ur entitled to becuz she chooses to lie to u.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2006): Hey -- my heart goes out to ya!If something's making you unhappy, let her know.Your future wife should be able to put your feelings ahead of her friendships with her various male friends.tell your girlfriend you're OK with her text messaging, as long as she doesn't hide it, and will allow you to look at them if you request to do so. Be loving but very firm about your request --- You have the right to be #1.Hope all goes well!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2006): You tell her to be upfront and honest with you and not worry about hurting your feelings. You tell her that it's better to be truthful, then to 'protect' you by lying. In return, you have to not only tell her, but show her that you can respect and except her desires to keep in touch with her male friends.
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