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writes:Hey everyone!!I have a question, so me and this guy have known each other for 3 years. We were friends, but we liked each other but then we lost contact. So I got a boyfriend and he got a girlfriend, but my relationship ended very quick. We were rude to each other so yeah.... so me and the guy who I known for 3 years we got back in contact and we was good! We got reallll close! Like he met my family and I met his. We never became a couple, but we did started having sex and that last about 7/8 and we was just always around each other. We talked about being together because he said we act like an couple but he was going off to school sooo the distance wasn't with us. But I would have tried it but we got into a big fight and we didn't talk for 10 months. Then 1 night I called him and everything was just like it was, which was GREAT because I really missed him. Me and him both are single but he's goin away again for school and I'm not waiting or anything. We both can date who ever we want but I just wanted to know what other ppl thought about our "friendship/relationship" like we really care for each other and I don't know if I love him yet, sometimes I think I do but I don't know. He says he know I do but I still don't know :/ but its like we both can get a boy/girlfriend but still be very close and ect. But Can ex sex buddys be just friends??? If you ask me do I think or know if we would have sex again the answer would be yes!!!! I know we would/will! Like what kind of friendship do we have? Do you think I should leave him alone again? I just want to know what other ppl think about everything. Thanks for reading :-) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionChigirl-- thanks again!
I agree with you. I just feel like sometimes we can't turn back to how we were before. I mean I really really care for him, its not like I don't talk or tryto get to know other guys. Its just, I feel like we will have a bigger connection. I feel like if he finished school and moved back home I would want to be with him ( relationship wise )
And the same goes with him, like he talks to other girls but its always me ( that statement didn't come out right, lol I hope you got what I'm sayin )
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (13 July 2011):
 It's just that the sex buddy relationship isn't definitely ended either. You can't say it has ended before you know you wont sleep with him again. It's not the type of relationship that has ended as long as you aren't physically in the middle of sex, and then starts again each time you meet and kiss. It's an ongoing agreement you have, that will have it's natural spaces and breaks, but as long as you know you'll have sex again, or you are open to the idea of having sex again, it's an on-going thing. It only ends when you decide that you will not have sex with him again, at all, period. That's when it's ended and done. Only then can you start to work on a possible friendship.
Pure friends aren't sexually attracted to each other, so as long as you are sexually attracted to each other you aren't strictly friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for answering my question!
But we haven't had sex in a while, I just said do I think we would ever do it again and I said yes. But right now, were not doing anything.
Thanks again tho :-)
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reader, chigirl +, writes (13 July 2011):
You're not friends, you are sex buddies. Appears like you always have been and will continue to be so.
Ex sex buddies can be just friends, sure, but he's not your ex sex buddy, he's still your sex buddy. You did say you'd have sex again.. and at the moment you're still going at it, so he's not your ex-sex-buddy. And this isn't a friendship, nor is it a relationship.
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