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writes:Hey. I'm in quite a complicated situation and I need advice. This weekend i'm having a sort-of double date movie watching party with friends(2 boys and 2girls, one of the girls i'm setting up with my friend, and the other girl let's call her Red, i have had a crush on her since 6th grade).Normally i would be happy about this, but it's being overshadowed by an ex-friend,(let's call her Myrhh)being super controlling and hating that i like Red. The reason Myrhh is angry at me is that a long time ago when she was complaning about me and my g/f (now ex), being too open about kissing in public, this irratated me, so i turned something she put on my space about a guy she liked into a "go and do such and such". I didn't realize this would hurt her so deeply and that she would hold such a long stading grudge. I have since then apologized at least 5 times. She didn't accept them and now since Myrhh is friends with Red, Myrhh never talks to me or acknowledges that i'm there when i hangout w/Red, (going so far as to tell me to go away from the table she and Red were sitting at for all of lunch) because i can't purposely make someone unhappy or irratated at me (it complicates a lot, believe me) i must leave them. Can anyone think of a way to have Myrhh forgive me? Any ideas or comments on the situation would helpp.s. Red knows that Myrhh is angery at me but she seems oblivious (Red can be somewhat ditzy) to what Myrhh does to me (because i usually leave, and prefer not to argue w/Myrhh at all.)
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (14 May 2008):
 Why was she so bothered about you kissing in public with your ex - sounds like jealousy to me. Yes it was wrong to hurt her by getting back at her but if you have apologised she needs to grow up a little. She may never accept your apology so I would stop trying - her and red wont be joined at the hip forever so just concentrate on red - youve done your best x
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2008): hey i lost my login number so i'm writing back throught a comment, so I wanted to say some further info everytime Myrhh sees Red she says "My love" and then glomps her ( Myrhh is pretty poscessive when it comes to friends,(Myrhh is not les. she has BF, and neither is Red so it can't be that) and that Red isn't really sure what Myrhh is angry at me about but has said that Myrhh should forgive me already.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2008): you can apologize again or try to apologize in pubilc and if she doesn't accept then forget her don't care what she thinks what kinda girl would hold a grudge for so long oh well don't mind her and i understand that she friends with the girl that you like oh well.. red knows whats the beef about right ?? so what you apologized she need to be forgiving .. leave it alone its w/e iam sorry but if red likes you she wudn't care you did your part and apologized what she expect you to do buy her flowers and bow to ur knees ... forget her sorry :)
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