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writes: Ok so I'm a 15 year old guy soon to be 16. And my whole life I've always felt weird and different. I've spent my entire life either hiding it, pretending i wasn't, trying to force myself not to be, or just denying it from myself and others. But I now realize I am attracted to guys and there's nothing i can do about it. It's gotten to the point that I now have feelings for some guys and that I find myself checking them out either around school or anywhere I go. And I'm really stuck. I don't know what to do....If this is a phase..then it's pretty LONG phase. So I'm starting to think it's not. I really don't know if I'm gay or bisexual...but I know it's gonna frustrate me. I've never been in any relation before and with all the problems and issues i have to deal with in my life..this is just adding on to the list. And now I don't know what to do. Can anyone help me. Any advice is appreciated. Reply to this Question
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reader, hopelessXO  +, writes (23 March 2010):
 I know exactly how you feel, except I'm a girl. I too thought that it was just a long phase until I accepted the fact that I am a lesbian. I figured it out when I realized that I wasn't attracted to guys anymore, it didn't matter how attractice he was.
I personally believe that you are never to young to know who you are, some people know really early. I think that if you find yourself checking out guys and have feelings for guys then you are gay.
Hope this helps a little, good luck.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (22 March 2010):
 It does not matter if you are gay , bi or heterosexual. Your sexual orientation is yours to decide alone and it is none of others business.
From time to time , you may gravitate your sexual preferences from one to another and there is no hard and fast rules .
You are who you are and nobody can change that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2010): Sounds like u might be bi or gay - its ok to be gay or bi, nothing wrong with it at all,but id keep it to yrself until r really sure, no need to tell the parents or yr freinds right now.
u dont have to sleep with a girl to know u are gay! a gay guy friend of mine has never been with a girl and he has always known he was gay! He is in his 30s now. he didnt have to "prove" he was gay by having sex with a girl, he knew, deep down inside him he knew. Dont stress! - give yrself a bit more time - if u wanna date a girl go for it, but u dont have too, dont let ppl tell you u have to prove anything! you are very young and this might pass, it might be phase, but if its not - thats OK.
focus on yr school work and friends and yr hobbies, stuff u lik to do, whatever.. keep living yr life and dont let this totally stress u out.
take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2010): There's nothing wrong with being gay, dude. It is hard at your age because other kids can be mean. I think people should wait until their 20s to start seriously trying to date and stuff anyways. You should try to talk to someone you trust, and I suggest a woman because they aren't as judgmental as men are and they are more compassionate.
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reader, Daisy Doo  +, writes (20 March 2010):
 Whoops i meant "your N0t interested in girls" sorry x
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reader, sounknown31 +, writes (20 March 2010):
 Hello :), well first things first do you like girls? have you ever been in a realtionship with a girl? i mean i dont think this is a phase, you could be gay or bi but first you should try both out and see which side sets you comfortably, hoped this help feel free to ask me anymore questions if you'd like
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reader, Daisy Doo +, writes (20 March 2010):
When i was...let's just say younger i though i was a lezzie tbh. But i told myself i was too yuong and it turned out i was right!But for you it's different, i say let time tell if you end up sleeping with a boy and you liked it and then you had it with a gril and it was not so nice or something then i would sya you are gay.Or the other way round you liked both you are bisexual.But from here it seems your interested in girls and thats fine.i think you are gay tbh.The hardest thing is telling your perants is i may say it's best to tell yoyour most trusted perant who will not laugh and will not think it's a joke.Good luck with finding yourself mate, best of luck! x
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