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writes:Okay so I broke up with my girlfriend a few weeks ago, haven't seen or talked to her since, I find it better this way, easier to move on. But last night I was out with friends, and one of them told me she was sitting right outside. I do not feel ready to see her again, as I'm still sorting out my feelings, trying to get over her, and getting used to the single life. Luckily it was crowded so I sneaked past her, but then later when I went some place else with my friends, a little later she showed up there aswell, I feel like she was following me around.You should know she almost never went out, always busy studying, babysitting, weekend jobs, etc. occasionally she joined me when I was going out. But that was it, now I find her watching me from a distance with a friend she's known for less then a month. I just don't understand that, I felt really uncomfortable and found myself unable to have fun anymore knowing she was watching me.Can anyone explain to me why she would follow and watch me like that? I doubt it's coincidence she happens to show up on the same day and places that I usually go out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell I'm kind of predictable on that front, I always go to same places when I'm out with friends. So it's not hard for her to figure out at what time I would be at a certain place.
And yeah I guess I should try to ignore her, that's what my friends told me too.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 June 2011):
 Well you may not believe it is coincidence but how would she know exactly what places you are going to, does she have a connection to you where she would know where you are going to?
Anyway taking that to one side and assuming that she is following you around well there is only one answer to that and that is she does not want to let go of you. I guess it has only been a few weeks so the break up will still be fresh for the both of you. But I guess she is not dealing with it very well and doesn't want to be without you. I guess she is doing this because she wants to keep an eye on you and see how you are doing.
Off course saying that it really is not fair on you that you should feel uncomfortable when you are going out and enjoying yourself. It's not fair. They only way you can deal with this though honey is to ignore her. Just go out and enjoy yourself and ignore her, am sure she will give up in time. I would suggest that you say something to her but I think that would just open up another can of worms and she would just get defensive. So really pet I think the best thing you can do is just try and ignore her.
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