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writes:Straight to the point!should a lady ask a man out? Whats your opinion on the impact on a relationship if a man earns less than the lady? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (16 April 2015):
 fWIW I went after my husband. I actually had to say to him "do I have to hit you over the head with a brick" to make him aware that I was interested in him.
As for earnings.. I make nearly 45% MORE than my husband and we function just fine. My money is his and his money is mine.
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reader, Garbo +, writes (15 April 2015):
 It's fine to ask a guy out.
As for woman making more money: some men don't care, some men feel intimidated and some men love it because they see a chance to leech. I hope your guy is the "don't care" type who will go about his work.
Sometimes, though, the "don't care" types are hard to distinguish from leeches because they both start the same way except only after you are hooked, the leech switches his tune.
I'm saying this cuz a girl I've known since high school, sharp as wits who did her PhD in 5 years, ended up marrying one who now has million excuses why he should stay home, sip on the bourbon and watch their two babies. She now sees it as a convenience: a free babysitter and a free handy man for occasional fixes around her house. The tragically funny part of this is when you see them all strolling into a place: she barges first, her daughters by her and the leech about 5-6 steps back dragging along both mute to each other.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2015): of course they can, I wish it would happen more often
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (14 April 2015):
 Amen, to all that Wise said.
I think there are PLENTY of guys who would enjoy being asked out. And those who can't "handle" that, are they a good match for you anyways?
I see no need to bring up that you make more money. Just like I don't see the point of a woman bringing up that they make less.
Again, if a GUY can not handle you making more money, he is mot likely NOT a guy you'd want to date.
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reader, peteloevely  +, writes (14 April 2015):
 i think it should be absolutely fine, just by talking to men i understand the majority do not see anything wrong with it, to the contrary they prefer it.of course all men are different and there are bound to be some that do not like it.it is the risk of taking initiative, rejection. but it should not deter you from trying rejection is part of life.about a woman who earns more than her male counterpart i'll let men answer that one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2015): It depends on the man. Some guys don't care if you earn more; as long as it's not constantly brought-up as an issue. Let him pay his own way, or split the bill. Don't spring for the bill all the time. Unless you make it a point to tell him, how would he know who earns more? To avoid moochers, you may not want to mention your income.
Unless you're dating skid-row losers or deadbeats; what does earning more have to do with anything? Men have less of a problem with that than women may think. It's "your" attitude about it that matters. If he works hard, has a good work-ethic, and likes you. Isn't that all that matters anyway?
Ask a guy out if you want to. He'll either say yes, or no. It really makes no difference who asks who.
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