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writes:I have been married to my husband for 13 years and we have a 12 year old and a 6 year old. He has been drinking for years, he goes out at weekends saying he is just going for 1 pint and ends up coming home at all hours calling me names and recently has been pushing me around (although he hasn't hit me)! He doesn't remember in the morning and tells me to forget it as he was drunk and didn't mean it, I am then supposed to get on with things as if nothing has happened. He says he doesn't have a problem with drink as he doesn't wake up and have a drink. I am sick of the lies, and all the times he says he isn't going to go out, but then does. I am sick of feeling depressed in front of the kids, but he thinks I have nothing to be upset about! I don't know what to do as I love my house and would hate to lose it and my eldest daughter has recently become very angry and it is only my husband who can control her (when he's in).Can an alcholic be someone who just goes out at weekends like my husband? What should I do?
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (23 December 2008):
 Unfortunately, yes.
If his drinking is out of control, then there is definitely a problem.
I think that your family needs counseling, either from a "shrink" or a priest, or pastor.
I wouldn't condemn someone for drinking, provided they do it responsibly, but it's not worth the anguish it's causing in your family.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2008): He seems to have a drinking problem and no dont forget it drunk or not there is no reason for someone to put their hands on you it is not a good thing he needs to seek help for his drinking problem cause it is a problem a big one .And it isnt good for the kids to see you down I am dating this guy who had a drinking problem and I told him it is either the beer or me he cant have both. Its tough love but sometimes you have to do it.....
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reader, AskEve +, writes (23 December 2008):
 Yes! Alcoholics don't always drink every day. Your husband certainly DOES have a drinking problem but he's in total denial. I would recommend that he goes to an AA meeting but if he won't then I strongly recommend that you go to an Al Anon meeting where you will meet people in exactly the same situation as yourself. It costs nothing to go, it's friendly and you'll be made to feel very welcome. You and your kids will also be given ways to deal with his problem and get so much support there. GO... you won't regret it!
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/
~Eve~
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