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writes:Hey everyone me and my girlfriend have been together for a while now but i have some questions. For any women out there, can ALL women cum? and if so, is an orgasm more exhilirating or just as with or with out cumming...
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (11 March 2010):
 For women, orgasms are more like ripples of waves (sometimes small, sometimes big and crashing) compared to men's which are more explicit. So if you ask me did I cum, I would be so consumed at the moment I wouldn't care to count how many orgasms I had. A Japanese woman demonstrated her squirting skills in a workshop and claimed that all women can squirt. Scientists say that only 2% can squirt. I can't so who is she to say that for all women. I have a lifetime to figure if I could but it seems like my boyfriend has given up on that idea.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you jenniepeg. That's what happens. I finger her to the point where she tries to push my hand away and when i go down on her, she sits up at a certain point like she's very satisfied. But im not sure if she has actually cum yet.
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (10 March 2010):
First I will tell you I prefer fingering over oral.
Orgasms vary in degrees. There a mild orgasms, the ones that relaxes me and release tention. There are painful, embarrassing orgasms, the ones that make me shake, and make me frantically try to move my boyfriend's hand away. When she says she's finished you need to stop and let her rest. Otherwise the sensations become raw. Then when she's ready take it up a notch and give her a deeper orgasm. She can as many clitoral orgasms as she wants before the actual intercourse. I agree that the biggest sexual organ is the brain. The whole package (your personality, physical appearance, confidence, etc) is just as important than technique.
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reader, lovetokissyou +, writes (9 March 2010):
Yes all woman could have orgasams if thay let themselfs go, our biggest sex organ is not your penis or a womans breast but our brains, think about it you will understand, if u think something is sexy then it is if you think of it as being dirty then it is , so its how we think that gets us to were we want to be , when your inlove I mean real love you feel things that you never could without someone loveing you and you loving them,, take care
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (9 March 2010):
 In response to followup question, technically speaking women cannot withdrawn from sex, like male after ejaculation, but female has a kind of feeling, that it is now 'enough'. The stretch, female organ achieve has some last point, then after female's mind see no point in prolonging sexual activity, but it is not resulted from 'cum', if cum means 'ejaculation'. In strict technical sense, female body has no such thing as 'ejaculatory' system.
In erotic sex play, male and female do not work for, what we call 'orgasm', but to preserve the 'fire' for long to longer time. So, it is not wild-orgasmic sex play, but straight line movement...it is like journey with no last point, and not climbing at high point [orgasm]. In this erotic play, couple play with 'erotic state of sex-organ' and quite deliberately avoid ejaculation. In this method, at some point mind feel total satisfaction, and willing decide to close their sex play. Erotic sex play is more satisfactory than ejaculatory play.
Erotic sex play has special offer...it preserve fire for all life, both feel pleasure, intimacy, and deep love, in totally new form, never experienced before.
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reader, Heartbroken in love  +, writes (9 March 2010):
If you have to ask her if she had an orgasm then she didn't have one. You gotta figure out what your doing wrong when you eat her out. When she gets up and says she's done that means she's bored from lack of stimulation. Just work figuring her body out. Just so you know if you don't figure it out your sex life will go down hill
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reader, veronika  +, writes (9 March 2010):
 In answer to your follow up, if she says she's orgasmed, then I guess you'll just have to take her word for it. Usually, though, you can tell if someone is having a orgasm. Does she make any sounds? Does she moan or sigh? Does her body tense and relax at certain points?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOkay thanks that's making more sense now. But when i go down on my girlfriend i eat her out and she sits up and she always says that she's "finished." And i guess that means she orgasms because when i ask her she says yes. but i dunno if she actually cums... im confused HELP
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reader, bharat mehta +, writes (8 March 2010):
Most wisest answer I read from this poster,...'A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2010), what she say about female's response is wisest statement. Human mind cannot face sexual experience with 'giggle' or ' laughter' or even 'smile'...if anyone can see it on screen or read in story is 'faking', or simply to create some dramatic effect, which has no relation with reality.
One thing is sure, I can say on basis of my philosophic knowledge that female enjoy sex more intensively than generally believed. It is also true that 'clitoris' is counter part of male's sex organ, and attributed with 'pleasure' so the nature of pleasure for both, male and female is same.
But, ejaculation is not orgasm is also sure thing. Ejaculation do not give any orgasmic experience, but it is a type of dead end of sex pleasure. Ejaculation give relaxation from sexual pressure.
Female's body, technically speaking do not possess any ejaculatory system, like male, and it is the reason why female's body should be hold as a highest norm in deciding nature of 'sex play'. The ideas generally termed as 'eroticism' { In Indian sanskrit language it is Tantra], is rooted from the nature of female's body.
Here the term, NATURE is most important. Which particular and specific 'attribute' of nature should be hold as principle? In reply to such question, we have only one answer: Female's body. and hence, EROTICISM.
Here nature of human intellect is also required to consider, which have potentially to see nature as 'objective'.
Here I am speaking in the context of normal and healthy mind and body.
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reader, veronika +, writes (7 March 2010):
Erm... "cumming" and "orgasming" are the same thing, in answer to your follow up question.
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reader, Heartbroken in love +, writes (7 March 2010):
Dude! Cumming, orgasm? SAME THING!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2010): No. They are one and the same thing for a woman.
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (7 March 2010):
Women do want to scream, and it's possible. Just because you don't scream like that doesn't mean it can't happen for a woman.
Listen to Lily Allen's song, Not fair.
Theres just one thing that's getting in the way you just aren't good in bed it's such a shame. I look into your eyes, I want to get to know you and then you make this noise and it's apparent it's all over.
It's just not fair, you never make me scream, you never make me scream.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2010): Sorry - I have to correct the women before here in case she gives you a massive complex. I'm sure that 99% of women would agree with me, that most of the screaming that happens in porn is completely and utterly fake. (I am the earlier poster) The idea that a woman should scream like that during sex is part of the whole social problem. A lot of the time, young women make a whole lot of noise during sex but they're only focusing on putting on the 'correct' show for you - not in their own pleasure. Not saying that some women are not noisy - but porn screams... that's all fake. If you want to see a genuine orgasm look at one of the 'squirting' web sites. The noises the women are making when they are actually climaxing are decidedly different and more like groans than the "I want your big **** inside me now!!!!" bullshit. ;)
Also - not all women can come from vaginal stimulation only. I read somewhere that about 75% of women need clitoral stimulation as well in order to orgasm.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone! But I have another question. Can a woman have an orgasm WITHOUT cumming?
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (7 March 2010):
Yes all women can come. Clitorally and vaginally. Our bodies our designed for that kind of pleasure. The stuff you see in porn where women are screaming, are real. They are not faking. Not all men can make women come though.
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reader, bharat mehta +, writes (7 March 2010):
The answer given here by 'A female reader, anonymous, (7 March 2010)" present good analysis. Her most important statement is this:It's generally more of a psychological that would prevent a women from being able to orgasm. And yes, of course sex with an orgasm is significantly better than sex without one .
Anatomically female's body is agent of procreation. So, human culture always remain in confusion about female's pleasure in sex. We can see it from male's mentality, that most of the male feel jealousy if they found out that their female partner is enjoying sex too much, and have some specific expectation. All male feel same feeling, that female should be 'pure', means she should not feel sex.
We are living in little 'freedom', and now a days, female's sexuality is discuss openly, and many female feel free to give expression about their experience.
In reality, female's all body lead sexual vibration, and extremely sensitive towards male's body. Female's mind is quite able to enjoy sex in totality. If male stop being jealous, then they can learn many good things from female, that even sexology could not hope to teach.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2010): I'm not sure that all women do cum, but I'm pretty sure that all have the physical ability to cum. It's generally more of a psychological that would prevent a women from being able to orgasm. And yes, of course sex with an orgasm is significantly better than sex without one - it's exactly the same as it is for a man - how would sex with no orgasms feel to you!? Doesn't mean it can't be good - but it's not... 'orgasmic' - obviously.
Having said that I have two points. First of all, even though women are early starters when it comes to developing mentally and physically, they are often late starters sexually. I don't know why this is but I think that a lot of it has to do with the fact that young women are never taught that sex is something that they should enjoy as well - but that's the main purpose is to make the boy they are with reach orgasm. I certainly never had an orgasm until I was 18 (and that was on my own.... and as an entire accident, I wasn't even masturbating!) despite being sexually active since I was 15. And even then, it took me till my mid 20s before I could have orgasm during sex with a man.
Secondly, for women, sexually pleasure is intimately connected with our state of mind. A lot of it is self fulfilling prophecy - i.e. if you believe that you won't orgasm, you don't. If you can get yourself into a state of mind where you expect to orgasm - then you're more than likely to. What I'm saying is that I expect that your girlfriend can orgasm but I'm assuming that there's a lot of psychological pressure on her to do so at the moment which is likely to make her feel 'performance pressure' - I'm sure you boys must understand that!
Chances are, like most people, man and women alike, your girlfriend is going to experience her first orgasm on her own, and then gradually, she'll start to feel more confident with experiencing that with you involved as well. But I'd take all the pressure of her for the moment and not make a big deal out of it.
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reader, Heartbroken in love +, writes (7 March 2010):
Hmmm can all women cum? Well that's like asking if all all women have boobs. Boobs come in all shapes and sizes just as a womans ability to achieve orgasm comes. You just have to figure out what gets her off. Try this if your having trouble helping her achieve orgasm. Catch her off gaurd and tell her you need to take her now. She will get turned on and ready to cum in no time. At least that's my experience.
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reader, veronika +, writes (7 March 2010):
Generally, yes - all women can have an orgasm. Some women just have a harder time reaching orgasm than others do.
What's exhilarating depends on the girl. I personally love the feel of an orgasm, but other women might be satisfied otherwise.
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