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writes: Hi, if you and your partner have different religions but are madly in love with each other.. would the relationship work out? Reply to this Question
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (29 July 2006):
 Of course it ~can~ work out, but whether it does in practice is dependant on a number of factors:
1. How devout is each person in his/her faith? Does each person make room for other's beliefs?
2. Are there plans for allowing each person the room to worship without feeling judged by the other?
3. Do both have the support of their families and religious communities?
4. Would each be mature enough to accept that the other is unlikely to change in future, or convert to the other's faith?
5. Is there a plan for raising kids? What faith will they be shown, or will they be allowed to pick one (or none)?
6. What happens on high holy days? Which family will the couple see? Can each participate in the other's holy days without sacrificing his or her own beliefs?
What I'm trying to point out is that both parties need to cooperate with the other, compromise and be very flexible. That requires a high level of maturity and a deep enough faith that you can allow other people to be what they are, without feeling a need to proselytse. (That applies to both parties, of course.) It's a lot of concession and a lot of give and take to make such a thing work out.
That means you need a lot more, ultimately, than being "madly in love". However, madly in love is a good starting point. If you can also be mature enough to accept that not everyone wants to believe what you do, then you're on the way.
Give it a whirl.
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