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writes:Can a relationship work even though i cheated on a guy i have been seeing for about 4 weeks, we were going through a patch when he wasn't replying to my messages so i assumed he wasn't interested, he then contacted me and wasn't aware that i thought it was over, i came clean and said i slept with a guy, they both are still interested but the 1st guy is the one i want to be with, as you can imagine its an awkward predicament and i have to tell the other guy i don't want a relationship with him, the 1st guy also wants to speak to him over the phone and confirm that it is really over, i know there will be trust issues and i don't normally cheat, i no its a cliche but i don't, and really want to make it work,i,m meeting up with the 1st guy later and i feel awkward about it and the thought of telling the other guy its over fills me with dread, am really not looking forward to telling him and how i can make it up to the guy i cheated on, because i no he is real hurt as i have been in that position myself last year. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2008): I personally dont think this guy has the right to be making demands regarding fella no.2 At the end of the day you assumed that he had lost interest because he was not responding to your communications. I dont think he has any right to not trust you. He cant expect to drop you for a while and get in touch when it suits him ,then act like you have cheated on him. For you to have assumed he had lost interest indicates that there was no contact from him at all. Have you questioned him about that because it sounds like he is at fault for misleading you in the first place. Why should you hang around on the off chance he would get back in touch- you re not a mind reader. Life is for living after all, so if someone else showed interest, I think its normal to move on with your life after getting nowhere with fella no.1
I dont see why it couldnt work but you have to make it clear to him that he produced the situation with how he behaved regarding communications. You have to insist that he realises that you couldnt have cheated when you thought it was finished. If you dont do this then he will be free in the future to cast it up in your face, which he inevitably will do to hurt you if you have even a small arguement.
Good luck and perhaps remind him that your not teenagers and as adults trust and respect for one another are key. x
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (5 August 2008):
 Sweetie, you were only together 4 weeks, so he will survive without you! Communication is very important in relationships, so sweetie, you must learn to talk otherwise things could get mixed up all over again!
Honeygirl
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (5 August 2008):
 you have only been seeing him for 4 weeks. calm down. i wouldnt really call it a relationship! he'll get over it im sure. as for the other guy, you need to grow up and face this. just because you dread doing it doesnt mean its not the right thing.
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