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writes:My boyfriend of two years was spending almost 5 nights a week at my house, he has never been married/engaged or had children but has now said that he needs to spend more time on his own, which i am ok about as he is most of the time very much against any sort of routine and I can see this is a way of saving our relationship and I know he loves me, I guess I would like to know from other people who have been in a similar situation and can a relationship survive long term knowing that there is a very good chance that you will never live together? Reply to this Question
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reader, duckie91 +, writes (27 February 2007):
duckie91 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Many thanks for your reply Carina it has been very helpful
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reader, Carina  +, writes (27 February 2007):
 It's actually becoming quite common for people to have what they call a 'semi-detached' relationship when they spend part of the week living separately. I believe it can work well as long as both parties have their own lives to lead and are independent. Where it goes wrong is if one or other is dependent, needy or possessive. Obviously there also has to be complete trust. If you enjoy your own company and have plenty of other things going on in your life then I would continue with the relationship on this footing, as long as you're happy. If you love each other and are there for each other emotionally when necessary and if neither of you gets suspicious and jealous, then go for it. However, if your gut feeling says 'no' because you know you need more, then be aware that this won't satisfy you longterm or if you think there are other reasons why he doesn't want to see so much of you, I would talk to him about it and ask him outright how he sees the relationship progressing. Hope this helps!
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