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36-40,
*offeebean86
writes:I have been dating a man for the past 3 months now – he treats me really well, he’s a great cook, clean, loyal, has goals in life, promising career, a little overprotective (but that’s ok), independent and most importantly he puts me as his number one priority – to sum up – he is ALMOST the type of guy I dream of having.There are two problems – his past and his point of views.1. In his past he was a typical player - cheated on his past girlfriend of 8 years by sleeping with 7 different girls! He says he wants to make up for all those wrong doings and promises he would never do anything to hurt me – I believe him but a part of me doesn’t. Can a player really settle so quickly? I’m scared its all just a game to him.2. Less than 1 month into the relationship he was already asking me to move out with him (I denied – I’m still a student and just not ready) and he sulked for 2 weeks because he concluded from my decision that I’m not a girl who commits. He sulks when I don’t call him every night. He thinks the course I am studying at uni has no future and that that people in my field aren’t necessary in this world and that women shouldn’t need to think about careers and that I should stay home and cook for him. He doesn’t like me spending a lot of time with my friends, he calls it “wasted time” because I could be spending time with him instead. He hates it when I drink alcohol and if another man looks at me, he gets upset. He is free to think what he wants but I’ve tried to talk to him about it in hope to resolve things but he says “I’m fine, your over thinking” It’s not fine if he’s always sulking – Its hard to deal with a 27yo who sulks and wont talk about anything. Friends tell me I got it good and that I can never find a man who will want to spend so much time with me and commit to me so bad– but if it makes me feel uncomfortable…What do I do? How do I fix this?
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reader, coffeebean86 +, writes (9 September 2009):
coffeebean86 is verified as being by the original poster of the question sorry i meant "not" genuine
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reader, coffeebean86 +, writes (9 September 2009):
coffeebean86 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou for all your quick responses!
to sexlessintheuk:
yes that long relationship he had was both his first relationshop and sexual relationship - theve started dating when they were in their late teens.
I felt at first maybe hes so protective and wanting to move so quickly is because he feels he wants to continue what he left off out of regret? so i feel his feelings are genuine.
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