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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I am wondering people's honest opinion on whether a bad boyfriend can turn around and become a good boyfriend? What would have to happen for this change to occur?I dated my boyfriend for 2+ years, he is 25 (I'm 21), and we broke up a couple times and always ended up getting back together. He is very immature in that he drinks/parties a fair bit, and the biggest issue is that he cheated on me multiple times (all while "drunk".) This makes me be against his drinking lifestyle because that is the reason he gave me for having cheated on me. He also told me that he was living life his own way, and not thinking about me. He claims to be ready for a real relationship now, but I am very skeptical, as I am afraid that I am going to end up getting cheated on again. Is there even hope for this man? I do love him and want it to work, but not at my expense again. I am also afraid that building trust again would be extremely difficult. Is there anything that he/we could do (ie. counselling, couples therapy) to make this work or is it a lost cause? Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2011): If he is drinking or using, all bets are off.
What he says doesn't matter.
http://www.lanarkleedsaa.org/pages/aboutaa/are_you_an_alcoholic.htm
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