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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Can a guy really love you if he upsets you all the time?I am trying to work out what to do. I have been seeing this guy for nearly 3 years now. We basically have a long distance relatonship as he works abroad and only spends about 25% of his time at home in the UK. We are not married but do have a small baby. When he comes home from work we spend majority of the time falling out. He is a very uncomfortable person to be around, always stressing, getting angry at the slightest thigs. He will smash things up in a temper. As a consequence I spend alot of time crying. It is only now I have started to think there must be more to life than this. I spend majority of my time living alone as a single parent, then when he comes back its just awful...i count the days until he has to go back to work so I can be happy again.Its really hard as I spent alot of time trying to figure out if you really loved someone how could you be so mean to them. As when he does the mean things..he spends loads of time after then apologising saying its not really him, or I made him be like it or that i shouldnt take things to heart and its basically my problem as hes never been like this with anyone else. Then I forgive him and it doesnt take long before the whole cycle starts again.He also takes steroids as is into bodybuilding but swears they have no effect on his temper at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2010): You've said you aren't happy with him, and feel better when he isn't there. Why stick around to be made unhappy. Dump him and find someone who makes you happy. And doesn't blame you for everything.
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reader, hermanclausan  +, writes (14 December 2010):
 You , like so many other women stay with guys like this. Beaten and humilated.Some end up dead.
This is not the life for you. You only get one chance in this world. Make the best of it.
It's time to move on. For sure he has other women in other ports.
Take care
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reader, the_phoenic +, writes (14 December 2010):
i think he needs help
because i know that he is suffering from his behaviours swell
it is better for both of you to get him treated
for his temper issues
Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2010): Sounds like he has some anger issues and may need some good counseling. Ive known a few guys who have taken steroids and they have complained about hypersensitivity and mood swings. I, myself, dont take them thankfully. If its not roids, then Id say he is very very immature and needs to find a productive way to deal with his emotions. Thats not your responsibility whatsoever, that is all on him and his own issue. It would def not hurt to re evaluate things here. Good luck.
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