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writes: My ex boyfriend and I started hanging out as friends about a year ago. We saw each other nearly every day and we became best friends. We both had feelings for each other but didnt tell one another for about 5 months. We finally started going out four months ago. I wasn't sure at the beginning of the relationship but he was really into me. Over time I really started to realise how much I loved him and how I had loved him since the start, but by this time he had began to drift away and was being more friendly with his ex. He broke up with me after one argument and I was totally devastated. Je said he still wanted to be best friends with me so we continued to see each other as we had before our relationship. He knew I loved him though and every time I saw him it gave me false hope that we might get back together. I went away for a weekend and found out that him and his ex were back together. It doesn't help that his ex is also my best friend who knew how much I still loved him. So now they're going out despite them both saying they'd rather have me as a friend than see each other. I can't stand the pain. Not only have I lost my first love but also two of my best friends. I don't know whether to remain friends with them both or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2005): I think putting some distance between the three of you would be best for now, as it will be to painful to see them together. In time maybe you can start picking up the friendship with them again but for now start going out with other friends, have fun, meet new people. Then you will find it wont hurt so much and you will be able to put the past behind you
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2005): If this relationship between your ex and your best friend is ruining your life then perhaps you shouldn't remain friends with them. If you could cope with the fact that your ex is seeing your best friend then i would stay friends with them. It's probably best if you remained friends with them as you were friends with them both before your relationship with your ex but it's your desision.
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