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writes: I have been going out my boyfriend for 3 and a half months. I have had sex with him but he wants children and I might be pregnant.What can I do? My period should start again on the 27 of this month and I am only 16 years old.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (12 July 2006):
 This is far too soon in a relationship to be talking about having kids! Egad. Forgive me for sounding like an echo from ancient times, but if he's serious enough about children, shouldn't he be serious enough to want to formalise a relationship with marriage? And would you be talking about marriage after three-and-a-half months? I doubt it.
If you "might" be pregnant, then I assume you've already been having unprotected sex with him. Bad idea! Anyone who'd coerce you into the risks there (STDs, pregnancy, HIV, Hep) does not care very much about you; he only cares about himself.
(I have a sneaking suspicision this man is older than you by a few years and sees you merely as a vessel for his DNA. It doesn't sound very romantic when phrased that way, does it? But this is just a hunch.)
STOP having sex with him. If you think he wants you to get pregnant, then don't even have sex with condoms. You can't trust him.
A pregnancy leads to an entire life of caring for dependant person. At the age of 16 you're only just starting your own life, and -- trust me on this -- you'll want to do a lot more with your life than be an unwed mum.
Get a pregnancy test from a chemist as soon as you're sure your period's late. If you're not pregnant, then heave a big sigh of relief, and dump the sperm-generator as fast as you can.
If you are pregnant, you have some deep thinking you'll have to do, and that will involve the sperm-generator too. Cross that bridge if you have to come to it.
Meanwhile, don't have sex with him any more. He's not showing care for anyone but himself and you can't trust him not to "accidentally" leave you pregnant.
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reader, Lostandalone  +, writes (12 July 2006):
 You are too young for this, even to consider it. Tell him thats not what you need nor want. How old is he? I am the father of a little girl and I am 29 and its hard trust me and I have a great career and it is still hard. Don't let anyone pressure you into such a huge life changing event. You will only cheat yourself and that baby.
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reader, bumble bee +, writes (11 July 2006):
if you dont want children then say no, dont let him force you into it. and in my opinion you are far to young to be even considering them, im 18 and wouldnt dream of attempting to bring a child into this world, even considering it at your age shows how immature you are, dont take that personally but i know i am too immature to shoulder such a big responsibilty.
if he tries to put pressure on you then that shows he doesnt really care about you, it will completely ruin ur life, at ur age you should still be going out with your mates and looking to start a career. another peice of advice, never have sex with him without using a condom, even if you are on the pill you should always use a condom. hope i help xXx
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