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writes: I've loved this boy since January and he turned to me yesterday and said he didn't think if he got with me it would work out because I'm too shy. After he said that I broke down and i haven't stopped crying. I'm even taking it out on my family and friends. I wish I could stop being shy but I just can't. Please tell me how 2 win him over.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2006): I think you should just try not to be as shy but if the guy can't handle someone shy than he isn't the right guy for you anyways.
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (12 July 2006):
 His loss... let him get on with it, he really is not worth it hun. When he says your too shy, what he really means is that he doubts he will get his wicked way with you!! You dont need someone like this, we all find love in different places and no matter how shy we are when the right on comes along its perfect and shyness doesnt matter. If somebody really likes you for you then the shyness wont put them off, moreoever it would make them more interested in getting to know you! Try not to stress too much about this guy he isnt worth your tears or your time. Just be yourself, someone that falls for you will fall you because of who you are not what you try and make yourself to be. He will be the one that loses out in the end. Keep your head up high and find someone thats less immature.
Take care x
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (12 July 2006):
 Don't bother to try to win him over. Why would you?First off, you can't "love" someone you don't even know. You can be attracted, you can lust after them, you can be infatuated... but love? No. So what actually happened, is that you're attracted to a guy who thought nothing of saying something to you that he probably knew would cut you to the quick. Nice guy. Not. In fact, he sounds like an oaf. Forget him.Work on being less shy if it's for *you*. Volunteer to give oral reports in your classes and force yourself to do it, take drama and speech and any other courses you can think of that will help you out of your shell. Say hi to people that you know, even when it's something you wouldn't normally do. All those things can help you be more satisfied with the person you are, and help make you more confident. When you're more confident, you'll be more poised and less shy. That's good for you.I wouldn't waste another thought on the boy though. Anyone who'd be that insensitive to a relative stranger wouldn't be much chop as a boyfriend. I can promise you that!
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reader, Lostandalone  +, writes (12 July 2006):
 Why would you want to? I understand you say you love him but be true to yourself. Your shy. Its not like your an alcoholic or a drug addict or something like that. Shyness is normal and it takes wanting to change for yourself to do so. There is nothing wrong with you for this and don't punish your family and friends for his shortcomings. They will be there long after he's gone and will love you shy or not. I say don't waste you time. You never dated him and you are already crying. Don't waste the energy. Good Luck.
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