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*xgal83
writes: I've been with my boyfriend for 6 years. This past year has been long distance (2 states over). I feel like he does not care about our relationship. He calls once a day normally when he's off work and about to head home so those conversations last about 12 min max. He doesn't text, email, or send cards.when I call he rarely answers. what's going on? I've brought how I felt to his attention and his response is that I'm over-reacting! I miss my old boyfriend and I'm tired of crying every night. I'm moving back in 4 months...should I wait or let go now while we do have this time apart to get over him? Please, help.
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reader, txgal83 +, writes (10 September 2009):
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2009): Long distance is really really hard. He's ringing you every day so he obviously cares alot about you. Personally as a guy, I think you are over-reacting. I'd wait until you move back in 4 months, (moving back in with him right?) before you do anything. Just stop focusing all your attention on him, maybe dont ring him all the time cos he may be feeling like you're being a bit clingy? He may even start ringing you because he misses you, I mean, why would he contact you if you're already contacting him all the time??
Use the time that you have to focus on yourself, go out with friends, take up a hobby, just generally do things that make you happy. Then if things arent peachy when you move back you can take it from there. Cheer up aye, long distance is hard on everybody and it makes you overthink problems in the relationship, when really the problem is the distance.
Best of luck :)
JT
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