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female
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writes:I hope you can bear with me here and tell me your thoughts. I feel very lost in this situation. First off, I am a non-custodial mom of a beautiful 2 year old girl. Why? Because I love my daughter and want the best for her and I know her father can provide better than I can at the moment. I see her very frequently and have her sometimes for weeks. I love her.So here comes the hard part... I've never done anything significant with my life. Never went to college, though I did finish high school with some average and some excellent marks. I just sort of... wondered about... never accomplishing anything. Then one day I was offered opportunity... it just sort of fell in my lap... Go to a good art school, have a nice studio, live in a great city that respects and appreciates artist, own my own business... just become something great and do something significant with my life that would make me proud of who I am! Sounds to good to be true, right? It is... because here is the kicker... I live in the US... this opportunity... is in England.Thoughts weighing both my options run through my head constantly for months now. Leave my only sweet daughter to only see her for a month out of a year, possibly more if things allow? Will she hate me for making this decision? Or am I setting an example for her to shoot for the stars and become who she wants to be? I would have access to funds which would allow me to place at the least 70 dollars in my daughters account every month and provide her a way to college for practically free when she graduates! She would see her mother might have left but made something of herself rather than just be content with mediocre. I would be giving her the opportunity to travel to places most people only dream of, London, Paris, Rome etc.... But omg... how can I just tear myself away from her? Would I be selfish for going because its something I want for myself too? Or would I be selfish for NOT going because of the things I can provide her if I do?I'm sure you see why this has caused much stress and worry for me. I just don't know what I should do. Some of you will say "I could never leave my children" but really, think about it, its not really about leaving here for me at this point, its about "what would I do for my little girl?" can I be brave enough to go? or is it brave enough to stay?God, every time I think of this it brings me to tears. I'm just running around in circles in my head like a chicken on fire with its head cut off. I just want to hear others thoughts. I have talked to a couple friends who have told me to go... but I want un-biased thoughts of people who don't know me, people who wouldn't say something just to make me feel better or what they think I want to hear.If you've gotten this far, thank you, I appreciate your time and hopefully any wisdom you can bestow. Reply to this Question
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