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anonymous
writes:I'm a 26 year old male with very little experience in sexual and romantic matters. I became really fed up with this situation and i´ve decided to change it by making an effort to act in a more open a confident way and "put myself out there", leaving behind at least some of my shyness and pessimism. The thing is that in the past few years i've become very isolated socially, interacting pretty much only with people at work and my family, but never going out "socially". Because of this i happen to feel awkward if i meet someone i like, because i know that i won´t have the confidence to go for it, if she finds out that i'm pretty much a "loser" with "no life". Considering that for someone like me you, building a social life and make friends is not something that can be achieved in a couple of months, but at the same time the sexual and sentimental frustration keeps building, what should i do? should i be open about being a lonely person even if this can come across as "creepy" and "pathetic" to women? or should i repress any attraction until i have a more solid social life? By the way, im "average" looking, shower everyday, dress "well" and i don´t have any serious mental illness, ha ha
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reader, Miss King !  +, writes (22 January 2010):
 It sounds like your a lovely guy with a need of a confidence boost!
Don't worry about it, get yourself into things you enjoy, sport? fitness? photography? cooking? etccc. join some social groups or look for singles evenings. To be honest, there is nothing more refreshing for a woman than to meet a genuine nice guy without a horrible history of ex girfriends, cheating, breakups etc. So i'd consider yourself lucky!! You come with no baggage and would make a great boyfriend, you're clearly concentrating on what matters- career and family, now just add yourself to that list and think about all the things you want to do with your life.. travel? extreme sports? etc, get involved with those dreams and hopes and you may meet someone who shares your interests and passions! Go for it, don't fill yourself with doubt, fill your self with confidence and excitement- it'll soon attract a very lucky woman!!
Good luck!! xx
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