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writes:Basically, I've just recently split up with my boyfrienda month ago because he was 'sexting' this girl, we saw eachother a couple times after but now we don't speak at all because I deleted him off facebook and stuff, (I done that cos I thought out of sight out of mind but that didn't help). I really love him and can't get over him and want him back but I don't think he wants to even though I ended it with him. I really want him back. I can't even have sex with anyone else, tried to but all I could think about is him, I didn't even get wet. I am so in love, every day my heart breaks a lil bit more. Is there anything I can do or say to him to get him back? Please, I can't even go one day without crying. I feel lost and so alone without him. Please please help me. Thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2011): You're welcome. I know how you feel but just give it time, grab the Kleenex and have a good old cry whenever you need one. That's what i did. There is a far better guy out there waiting for you x
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou so much for your advice, all of what you said is perfect. I will take your advice. I really appreciate it honestly. Xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2011): What he did to you was a form of cheating. Somewhere along the line he made the decision that he really wanted to talk dirty with this other girl so much. That even though he knew there was a risk you might find out and leave him, he went ahead and did it anyway!
So you had a very good reason to let him go. Now you are obviously feeling down about all of it. Thats understandable. You say he doesn't seem keen on taking up with you again. That is pouring salt on your wound. It would have made you feel a little better if he had been very upset, begged for you back and spent the past month pursuing you. The fact that he isn't doing any of that, shows how little he really cared about you.
I know you don't want the liar back who was cheating on you. You want the guy you thought you knew, the one that doesn't really exist now you have discovered what he is really like. What you are going through is a type of grieving because you have lost someone.
A few weeks is very little time to get over an ex partner. Anyone you meet right now will be a rebound so it might be wise to leave yourself a little time to recover from your disappointment before dating again.
You could open lines of communication with your ex partner but it might be setting yourself up for a fall if he isn't interested anymore. If it hurts now it will hurt so much more if you try again with him and he doesn't respond. And the fact of the matter is, you did nothing wrong. You shouldn't have to go running to him. If you do that, he will see you as weak and probably not respect you or treat any better than he has already.
You do not deserve to be treated like that by anybody. If i were you i would hang in there for a few more weeks. Give your feelings a little more time to settle because it is still early days.
I discovered an ex partner was behaving like yours. It totally shattered my illusions and i left him the day i discovered what he was up to. I spent weeks crying because i'd thought he was so 'wonderful'! It was tough but i wanted to hold out for someone much better than him. I have a brilliant boyfriend now and i'm happier than i ever was with that ex. He has been married a year and already he is cheating on his wife! I still hear from him now and then but i ignore the loser. I'm over it! Give yourself a little more time and you will get over your ex too, i promise.
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reader, DanceInTheDark  +, writes (25 July 2011):
 Well first you need to learn to be okay with him sexting other girls.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm 18, and I love him. I understand what you're saying but I don't want anyone else. Just him :(
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (25 July 2011):
 i think you should run after him, even though you know for a fact that he is sexting other girls. Wow. What a catch. I would be happy forever with a guy like that. Sarcasm.
YOU ARE 16!!!!!
Your whole life doesn't have to be decided right now; especially if you are hung up. Take a break.
It really is amazing, but things actually DO happen for a reason, and you will wind up with the person you are meant to be with.
Just USE YOUR HEAD and your heart. Choose a man who respects you and one that you would never even doubt.
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