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writes:A relationship ended about 1.5 years ago by my hand. I made up reasons in my head to leave, none of which had any significant basis. Poor decision? Absolutely. What was I thinking? I have no idea.She goes on to date another guy, and I go on to date another girl. I dated first, but even so, when I learned of her new boy, I felt shut out. Unreasonable? Maybe.Months later, I'm single again, re-evaluating my position, and realizing that she's the one I should be with. So many of her traits are genuine.There seems to exist the potential that they might break up later this year, and so my current position is that of waiting with only enough presence to remain on the radar. However, the chances of this are unknown, and I find myself wanting to say something.If I were to say something, the timing for such is perfect for when she returns from another country. Should I speak up as to how I feel when I see her next, or let things run their (potential) course?I don't want to lose her. Reply to this Question
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reader, pink nails  +, writes (11 December 2010):
tell her you don't want to lose her
make sure that it's hinted at(that you belong together, or that you want to be with her)-so that it's not random or awkward
make sure you don't confess a month or 2 after she's broken up with her boyfriend because she might be vulnerable and you don't want her to think you're taking advantage of that.
you should tell her! Don't keep feelings of love inside, you don't want to think "what if"
=] Best wishes!
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reader, Moose57 +, writes (11 December 2010):
Sucks,man. Had an expirence like that to. I didn't try anything though. I suggest you find something you know makes her happy, and apologize, and present that thing to her... Unless she's dating sm1 new. Then you gotta tell her how u feel, being as romantic as possible as you do. Good luck, bro
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reader, Abella +, writes (11 December 2010):
 Speak up as soon as you feel able and tell her you erred in breaking up. And tell her all you love about her. And how much you miss her. Suggest a time to see her. If she is reluctant back off a little, but let her know how much you would welcome her back into your life. Good luck.
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