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writes:Is there anything I can do to convince him about the age? That I am willing to work with him. I have tried everything but still to no avail. He said the age difference would always be there. He is 12 years older than I am. It hurts so much because he said he liked me a lot, we connected but the age difference would always be at the back of his mind. I am so hurt. Wish I could do something different. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2010): I completely disagree with Emily. My mum was 25 when she met my dad, he was 44, and by now means a pervert or a predator. I've actually never seen a happier couple. They never argue and are still so in love, 27 years later. It can work. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2010): Sweetness it is wrong on many levels. He did the right thing. If he accepted he'd be taking advantage of you, and you don't wanna be in a relationship with a pervert / predator do you?!
Move on hun. You're a young beautiful princess and a lot of guys your age would be falling under your feet to choose from, and leave Mr. Creepy alone.
Emily
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reader, SillyB +, writes (5 September 2010):
 Well my bf is 9 years older - but we connected on an emotional level. We're relatively at the same maturity level (he being less mature and me more for our ages).
Honestly, I think the age excuse is just that, an excuse. I don't know how long you've dated or whether you slept with each other, but if he truly loved you age would not be a problem. It just sounds like an excuse for something else - he got what he wanted (sex), he found someone else, he never fell in love and it was time to move on, and so on...
But whatever the excuse, just remember that with time things will get better. In the meantime, you need to learn how to read whether a man is truly interested in you or not. I'd read these two books (ignore the rude titles), but htey'll save you some grief in the future - "He's just not that into you" and "why men marry bitches" and "What men really want".
These books really helped me understand that men can say all types of things to bed a woman, but you have to look at their actions first. When he calls you, how he talks to you, when and how often he wants to see you...their all signs of his interest level. Don't sleep with a guy until you are sure he loves you.
Just occupy yourself with other things for now - friends, hobbies, family. Time will help. Take this as a very valuable learning lesson.
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