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writes:My girlfriend of 4 years basically is trying to break up with me through a text message. I feel that is very rude and immature. So I'm thinking about writing this back. " I don’t understand the reason why you send a text to do this. Keep the phone. I will do you the honor and disappear for you.." How's that sound?
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reader, GettingHelp  +, writes (12 April 2010):
My guess is that she's trying to let you down softly so that she doesn't look like the villian.
If you've been together for 4 years and managed to make it work thus far but she now ^all of a sudden^ doesn't have time for you then she's lying.
She's letting you down ^softly^ (or at least she hopes).
Via text message is definitely rude and immature and you don't deserve that kind of treatment, nor do you deserve to be left hanging because she can't balls up and needs to try and let you down softly with what is essentially a lie.
Good luck
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (12 April 2010):
 If she really wanted to be with you one would think she would make some small amount of time to make it work.
If she is not planning to go to school and then spend ALL the rest of her time studying, not going out, not taking calls, not seeing friends etc, then she is just giving you an excuse as lame as the delivery method.
I would not advise taking her back down the track, ... she has already shown you that you are an expendable aspect of her life and what if after schooling she gets a job like most people? If she cant fit a guy in with school, how will she fit one in with a job?
Just about everyone else manages to balance these things, ... she just does not want to. Simple as that. Sorry.
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reader, Heartbroken in love +, writes (12 April 2010):
That's just her trying to keep you as an option or trying to give you false hope
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2010): wow that's cold, i had just the problem, my boyfriend who i thought was decent enough decided to break up with me by text, what is happening to the world? haha
Too scared for face to face,
when its obvious you dont deserve that, no one does,
you can find a lot better, im sure of it xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks people, I did not text anything back yet but lemme ask you a question..she told me in the text that she wants to be with me but at this moment (with school going on) she doesnt have the time for this. well when is the time for this because we can't just all the sudden come back together and expect things to be okay
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reader, LarryGalapagos +, writes (11 April 2010):
Sounds great. Break up with her; the words you used are perfect. And yes, it is immature, rude and inconsiderate to break up via text message. You don't want to be with someone like that anyway.
Good luck and take care.
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reader, GettingHelp +, writes (11 April 2010):
I would so *call her* and tell her that you're worth more than that and you're sorry that she's not big enough to handle it face to face. And then move on & forget about her. Cherish what was good & sweet - but move on.
I say good riddance if she's that cowardly.
Sorry I have issues with text message break ups.
Hope that whatever you do you can move on to someone better and more deserving.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (11 April 2010):
 Do whatever you need to do.Whether it is immature or rude, the message is the same.Send her that message and good riddance to her!
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reader, Heartbroken in love +, writes (11 April 2010):
The best thing to say in this situation is absolutley nothing. Don't even acknowledge her and just move on.
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reader, Not My Name +, writes (11 April 2010):
I think don't let her off the hook so easily! I have long disliked text messaging, but hearing the things I do on this site strengthens my resolve that we would be better off with out this technology since people cant seem to behave decently and properly whilst hiding behing their mobile phones.
I would not break up with someone in a voice call, let alone an even more dehumanised text. Where is common deceny gone these days? People just dont seem to own there own actions any more!
On principle, I would tell her to have the decency to come and say it to your face, ..and tell her how pathetic she is if she does not have to goolies to front up and put her mouth where her texting fingers are!
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reader, danni95  +, writes (11 April 2010):
that sounds ok to send back on certain circumstances it depends how she wrote the messages to you saying she dont want to be with you no more it might be rude and immature to send it over text but really theres no need for qny argueing because thats all it will end up causing, i have delt with many breakages on realtionships over phones and i find it immature and rude but really the best way to say it is "okay i understand that you dont want to be with me no more but it would of been better to say it to my face, and by the way you can keep the phone and yes i will stay out your life if your asking me too otherwise id rather just be friends". that sounds a bit more mature to send back. hope this advice helps you with your problem. :)
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reader, danni95 +, writes (11 April 2010):
that sounds ok to send back on certain circumstances it depends how she wrote the messages to you saying she dont want to be with you no more it might be rude and immature to send it over text but really theres no need for qny argueing because thats all it will end up causing, i have delt with many breakages on realtionships over phones and i find it immature and rude but really the best way to say it is "okay i understand that you dont want to be with me no more but it would of been better to say it to my face, and by the way you can keep the phone and yes i will stay out your life if your asking me too otherwise id rather just be friends". that sounds a bit more mature to send back. hope this advice helps you with your problem. :)
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