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writes:okay maybe u can help me.....Im not so sure how to put this so i'll just tell u my whole story.My Bf and i were madly in love....then one day i was thinking about dumping him so i could get my life back on track from all the drama (keep in mind none of the drama was his fault) and i was texting my friend C about this and she told him I WAS gonna dump him which was a lie. Later that night I had told her no i wasnt gonna dump him, its not his fault and i love him.well i didnt know that she had told him that and all the next week he was acting really strange, and then he dumped me on face book and i told him i hated him.....he started to get upset and i realized i dont hate him i hate what he did so i told him that and i told him i still love him. He told me he still loves me too but he has another gf.He is telling me all this sweet stuff and gave me a note calling himself a fuck up, and saying if a bullet was shot at me he would jump infront of it and die for me.....i almost started to cry....Lately he has been kissing me again but he is still in a relationship with another girl, i told the other girl what he was doing and she got ticked and dumped him and then got back together with him. they got into an argument asking if he really wanted to stay with her and he told her no but they are still together.So now u know my whole story and at this point i am just confused on what to do can u help me?
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (25 March 2011):
 Sings_alot chicky,Look, he is not treating you very nicely, you know? He is involved with this other girl while telling you he loves you and wants to buy you a promise ring. BUT he is STILL with the other girl, even though when she asked him if he wanted to stay with her he said "no" - but has done nothing to end it with her. Remember that actions (behavior) speak louder than words (talk). He's not being fair to either you or her. However, he IS very young, and in part his behavior can be chalked up to not being mature enough to know what to do. Not that that is any excuse, mind you.You both are too young to be thinking of being in love and promise rings, etc. All this drama is extremely stressful for you, and ultimately that stress is gonna affect your health - I don't mean you'll get seriously ill, but it can make you very tired, depressed and unable to pay attention to the important things - which is your schoolwork at this point!I know you're unhappy, and I know it hurts pretty bad to let him go, but really, that's what you need to do to take good care of yourself.There will be other boys, and in about six months you'll wonder what you ever saw in this one! (Hard as it may be right now to believe that!)
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reader, Sings_alot_chicky +, writes (25 March 2011):
Sings_alot_chicky is verified as being by the original poster of the question there has to be something else i can do
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (24 March 2011):
Well, if you choose to be confused and unhappy then go right along with what you and he are doing.It's your choice.
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reader, Sings_alot_chicky +, writes (24 March 2011):
Sings_alot_chicky is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank u for the ones that tried to help but i dont think i can leave him alone, and he WONT leave me alone. he has my heart and he says i have his, he has even told me he wants to buy me a promise ring........I just dont think i can act like nothing happened between us, he always brings it up, my freind c always brings it up
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (24 March 2011):
Look, you are what? Only 13, 14? You REALLY don't need all this drama in your life!(Doesn't matter if its "his fault"; or not his fault, or whoever's fault it is).
What would be good would be to leave your bf alone - don't text, phone, email him, basically have very little to do with him in class or on break, social events. Do not contact the other girl he's been seeing, either, and as for your friend, C, just drop the subject entirely. (I don't mean drop HER; just don't talk about this any more with her)
The sooner you let all this go and be part of your past, the better off you'll be. No wonder you're confused and upset!
Another thing: its one thing to have a crush on a boy, but quite another to talk, about, feel, "madly in love". Wait until you have a few more years under your belt and have had the chance to learn and grow, before you start getting into all that!
You ought to be having FUN, focussing on your schoolwork, hanging out with your friends at the local mall, and other activities......
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2011): Honestly? Don't talk about things like breaking up with someone to anyone who would go tell the person... 1) Its not very nice of you 2) things like this happen because of it
He's obviously not very mature if he dumped you on FaceBook and not the greatest guy if he's cheating on his current girlfriend with you and then getting back together with her.
You don't need a guy like this in your life.
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