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female
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22-25,
anonymous
writes:Okay so at first this question sounds super cliché but it's more than how it first sounds, so please bare with me. My friend and I like the same guy. Cheesy, I know. My friend has dated this guy for about a week and they broke up in early October. I'm good friends with this guy and he told me a while ago he still liked her a bit but he isn't going to do anything about it. Then this week I've been really close with this boy and we've been play fighting and flirting and basically just having such a laugh. And so a few days ago I realised that I seriously like him. But yesterday my friend told me that she liked him again. I hadn't told her yet but I admitted it to her today. I love my best friend and she's so sweet so I definitely don't want to lose her. But if it did come to him asking me out, I would feel like I was breaking girl code. But then again I haven't had a real relationship before, I really like this guy, and I'm always the one fixing others relationship? I'd just like some advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2014): Break the girl code!
I don't know the reason but boys will sometimes date the friend of the girl he really likes. A lot of guys do it and end up getting in the circle. Some boys do it and end up finding the right girl wasn't the one he asked out. You just need to find a boy for your girlfriend.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (7 December 2014):
 Dont break the girl code. Seriously. There will be other boys, and you have plenty of time, no rush. If he asks you out, tell him that you cant, because he used to date your friend. At your age, girls are very territorial. Which means you will end up in a fight if you say yes to him, and your friend will no longer speak to you. A boy is not worth it. The right boy will be a boy who likes you and only you, and not your friends. This bot... Well he liked your friend (again) not so long ago. You dont want to be his sloppy seconds, just because it disnt work out with her.
At a later age it is more acceptable between friends to "share" a guy, in the sense that one had him first and another later. But usually women need too be mature (often in their 30's) before the "girl code" can be put aside.
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