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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I've been with my boyfriend for a year now and sometimes I feel so in love with him and other times I just can't stand him. Now I just don't feel attracted to him. He loves me to the moon and back and he'd never betray me but I just don't know what to do. Break his heart when we've been through so much or try to get past these things?I lost all over my childhood friends this year which may be why I'm clinging to him so tightly and I've dealt with depression for 6 years now and I don't know if I'll regret the decisions I make. I just know there won't be any taking it back. Reply to this Question
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reader, chocoholicforever +, writes (28 September 2011):
Don't stay in a relationship that you don't want to, but just because you fear that breaking up means you're a 'bad person' to be hurting the other person's feelings.
If you want to work on the relationship to improve it, then that's a good reason to continue to stay and work through it. If you feel very strongly or very often that you just don't want to even work on it anymore, because you've had enough, or you really don't see potential for things to improve even if you work on it, then it's alright to break up. You'll be setting him free so he can find happiness with someone else in the future.
some times you may be better off being single and not in any relationship for a period of time especially if you're going through a rough time and have a lot of personal issues to sort out. It can take all your energy and effort to work on yourself and help yourself to heal from your personal pain, and you won't have anything left over to give to someone else or to a relationship. And that's fine. Relationships work better when both people are emotionally healthy, and being in a relationship while also struggling with your own issues can be more pain than benefit to either of you. So taking time to be on your own and get healthier before bringing someone else into your life, could be the best thing for you and the other person.
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