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writes:Please help me out on this! My potential mother-in-law leaves me out of family gatherings such as Easter, inviting instead someone my bf used to go out with, whom she prefers, and whom she has a close relationship with and adores. Every holiday I am thus filled with a terrible dread. So finally, last night, I spilled out my feelings to my bf, about how I felt excluded and how I didn't want to go if SHE were there, because it would be horribly awkward, etc. Am I right in speaking out like that? Today I woke up feeling guilty and horrible. I feel like she (his mother) likes this girl because she is docile and not really a "rival" whereas I am more like her in a way, which is maybe why my bf likes me.He said he might join me to go elsewhere than their family gathering this year, but now I feel bad about that because it's an important family occassion. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2010): I was awed by how supportive all of your answers were!!Thank you and thank you again!--Original writer
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (4 April 2010):
 I agree with the other aunts and uncles, your future mother-in-law is being a total cow. Would you be brave enough to confront her about it and point out to her that she is hurting your boyfriend by insulting the woman he loves? If you couldn't do that your boyfriend really needs to. Someone needs to point out to this woman that she will lose her son if she contines in this destructive fashion.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (4 April 2010):
 Your future MIL is manipulative and controlling. It does not bode well for your future and your future path will not be smooth sailing.
You need to find out if your b/f will always stand on your side ,otherwise your relationship will be full of strife and dissensions.
Don't feel bad or sad for bringing up this issue. You need to find out where your b/f stands. Better to know earlier than late.
If your b/f is indecisive and always listen to his mother ,you will be in for a very hard time.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (3 April 2010):
I think it's good that you told your boyfriend how you feel in this situation. I think you have every right to feel how you do. I would definitely feel the same way if I were in your shoes along with many other people. Your future mother-in-law is being totally out of line and inconsiderate. Don't feel bad about your boyfriend not showing up to a family event because of something HIS mother is doing, you're not doing anything wrong. If stuff like this continues, I think your boyfriend needs to man up and have a talk with his mother because she really is being a total bitch.
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