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writes:I was wondering...everytime I am with my boyfriend I feel extremly tired. Like we will be sitting close (touching and holding hands) and all of a sudden a strong wave of drowsiness come over me. So I lay my head on his shoulder; but I dont sleep, I just rest my eyes while we talk. (With him saying 'no sleeping!' in a joking manner).I was thinking that maybe it was his Old Spice Aftershave (my fave.) that was putting me to sleep. But then I remembered that I use to get tired with my ex as well...So, why is that?I really like my new boyfriend and he is really sweet, and I dont want to fall alseep everytime were together!
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reader, natasia  +, writes (3 November 2009):
 The same thing happens to me when i am next to my partner. And I also CAN'T settle easily to sleep without him. But if any time during the day I lie, or even sit, next to him (ie, within his aura!! It's true - we all have our own electro-magnetic field - when you feel like someone has got too close to you, it's because they're in yr field and you don't want them there) - then I start to feel drowsy after a while too, and it's like I can't think about anything, my mind goes completely blank, and I just want to snuggle up and shut my eyes.
I think it is some kind of strong calming soothing sort of influence - it must be physical/chemical, as it's v strong. You basically go on to a different plane.
I think it's a nice thing : ) - although quite inconvenient when you've actually got something to do. If you want to keep a clear head, just don't sit too close to him!! : )
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reader, hijacked_dignity +, writes (3 November 2009):
 I can honestly say that I relate to the situation that you're going through. Though I don't know if the same circumstances surround what's going on.
Recently I have been having issues going to sleep when I'm home alone. Between stresses and whatever else might be going on in my life, it's just rather difficult to sleep. So I'm usually pretty tired during the day, but I've gotten used to it. However I get to see my boyfriend to or three times a week. I love being around him and I love doing things with him, but for whatever reason I find myself sleeping for a good chunk of time when we're together. Like I will literally cuddle up with him wherever we are (at his place or mine), and I will feel a bit drowsy so I'll close my eyes. And then bam. I'm sleeping. At first I felt really bad about this, so I tried talking to him about it.
Apparently he gets the same way sometimes. I think it's because when I am around him, those stresses or whatever that's bothering me kind of fades away. I have him. And he makes me happy and he allows me to forget about whatever is keeping me up at night, so I just suddenly get really tired and fall asleep next to him. I don't think it has anything to do with the soap or whatever that he uses, I just think you feel super comfortable and relaxed around him. And naturally that brings out whatever drowsiness or exhaustion you have been carrying throughout the day. Known or unknown. So no worries! I think if you would explain it to him he would understand, and I also think that if you want to stop this pattern, you two should keep busy and avoid super comfy couches or beds. Sleep only comes naturally when comfortable. Haha. Good luck!
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