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writes: Hello. I really need some help with my situation because it is upsetting me so much. I am 20-years-old and my boyfriend just turned 22. We've been together for 2 1/2 years. In the beginning of our relationship we were intimate a lot of the time and it was great. And it was nice because it wasn't just about the sex. We did a lot together and just had a good time. We moved in together pretty early in our relationship which surprisingly didn't cause any problems. We still live together now and he doesn't work. I've been supporting us for a while now which bothers me sometimes but it's not that bad. (im a dancer so money isn't too much of an issue.) But now we barely ever have sex. And if we do it's on his terms. He always wants oral and proceeds to climax as quick as possible when we begin intercourse. I know this is on purpose because before he could last for quite some time. He won't give me anything I want like kissing or oral. Which he used to do. He always told me that he isn't cheating. And seeing that he just recently got a dwi and has to be home most of the time I don't think he even has time for it. We have had threesomes before which excites him for a while which makes him want solo sex more often but then it dies down again. Right now it's been 3 weeks. Excluding the few times I got ontop of him while he was sleeping which lasts all but 30 seconds before he climaxes and I'm still unsatisfied. He even tries to get me to give him oral until climax and then have sex which I'm ok with but he always winds up playing me and saying he's too tired afterwards and we never have intercourse. I've never cheated on him and I know I'm pretty attractive. I'm an exotic dancer. But lately I don't feel pretty or like I'm doing something wrong. Someone please help me because I'm so miserable. I'm so in love with my bf and he's so attractive to me but he won't let me have him and it hurts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2010): Leave him he's just using you and he doesn't even want to have sex with you sounds like he's bored and its not your fault at all you've tried different things to get him interested but he is selfish LEAVE HIM!!!!! He's manipulating you and you can do better! Good luck with his lazy ass!!!!!!
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (29 April 2010):
 He is just not that "into" you anymore, but he's now soaking you for all he can, including support, because you're so in love with him and he's so attractive to you.
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reader, ladyjaye  +, writes (29 April 2010):
 it sounds to me as if your man is losing interest... have you tried to talk about how you feel?? a long discussion may be in need...also consider that your sex drive may be too high for him to maintain... have you thought about other activities you could do with each other in order to regain some intimacy between you two (its not all about sex!!!)him climaxing early and not wanting to satisfy you is concerning, have you ever thought he may not approve of your exotic dancing? just another thing to consider... he needs to get a job its obvious he is way too comfortable, its not good that you should be supporting him, it should be an equal partnership especially with you two living together... gud luck i hope this helps!
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reader, mizz.butterflies +, writes (29 April 2010):
 You have been ignoring the reality for some time now but its time you see the facts for what they are and stop fantasizing. You are being the man in the relationship. U provide for him,he doesnt do anything and on top of that he's not giving u good sex. He's been lazy and you are ok with it. Just because ur a dancer and its easy for u to make money doesnt mean he shouldnt appreciate it. And guess what? He doesn't. Soon he will start to abuse you and manipulate you. You need to get out of this disfunctional relationship. A guy who respects his girlfriend will not want 3somes all the time to get him aroused. I am not saying u should never try it. But trying it once and wanting it all the time to get stimulated is a different story. He has taken you for granted. Now if u ask him to move out,where will he go? What if he tries to hit u the moment you dump him? Alternatively,you can sit him down and tell him he needs to get a job himself. He has it way too easy that YOU bring ALOT of money..and lemme tell you what. Noone wants to workw when they have enough MONEY. Do u get that?
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