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writes: i have just split up with my boyfriend, i love him loads and was heart broken since he ended our realtionship. in the past we have split up n within ten mins got back together, the reason we have split up is because of me. i have promised to change in hes took me back, however we have never really changed anything as it was so easy to slip back into old ways, however this time he has ended the realtionship all together. i agian have told him i'll change and this time i really would do somthing about it however he says he cant believe me so wont take me back. i have never cheated on him or nothing so he can trust me. we've stayed friends and r still going on holiday 2gether in aug. since spliting my x has said he loves me and he misses bu still cant believe i've changed. how can i prove to him i have? can anyone please help me? xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2006): right, i have been in this sort of situation and i went on one of these wbsites before and they told me what to do and i did it and it worked. they said that you should leave it for a coupple of weeks, and then when you go on holiday together try to improve yourself by asking what you did wrong and how could you fix it then when you konw your going to be alone in a nice quite plaee just the two of you, i think u should dress up, look drop dead gorgeous and he will just forget all the things, if he dosnt forget tri to show him how you have changed by maybe taking him out somewhere to eat, or go to the pictures, anywhere its just the 2 of you and you to can talk and work things out good luck xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2006): I went through the exact same situation last summer. My boyfriend broke up with me saying that I always promised to change, but I hadn't. For a whole month afterwards I spent much of my time trying to convince him to come back to me and that things WOULD be different. I learned, though, that we were better off apart and now I plan to marry my current boyfriend in the fall.
I know right now you can't even phathom that you could be happier with someone else, but you never know. Right now you really need to focus less on your ex and more on yourself. Try to be happy without him. Try not to really contact him at all. If you do contact him, tell him something like you heard a funny story that you thought he'd get a kick out of too or something along those lines. Sound happy when you talk to him, and laugh and have fun when you do. If you guys have mutual friends and you know you will see him again, this will be easier to do. You need to show him that you really have changed, and not tell him. Even if on the inside you're sad without him, act happy. Act as though it doesn't bother you too much that you're not together. I say all this because that is what will make him interested in you again. No guy wants to get back together with the girl who calls him crying and begging twice a day, like I learned. It wasn't until I had moved on and was becoming interested in my current boyfriend that my ex called me up and said he wanted to start over. I told him it was too late, though, and that felt really good.
So, right now, live for yourself. Do what makes you happy, and try to really be happy. Your ex will see that happiness and it may make him interested again. Also, the less you contact him, the more curious he will be as to why, and the more likely he'll be to call you up out of the blue.
I really hope that everything works out best for you in the end. I hope my advice has helped some. Good luck to you!
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