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36-40,
anonymous
writes:When me and my boyfriend first met he didnt watch porn, but together we tried it a couple of times and then it stopped. but then i found out he had been watching it behind my back. at first i was mad but then i said it was ok with me but i wanted too know what kind of internet sites he was watching. the problem is that i then find out hes on a forum and later i find out hes watching other stuff. i know i have a hard time trusting him on this but when ever im worried about it i find out hes looking somewhere else at something new. why cant he just watch it together with me or atleast tell me about what hes watching? If i ask him if he has been watching something new he just lies. and it pisses me off that he lies too me. im worried he will one day cheat on me and just lie like he does with this. I ask him too watch it together with me but he rarely wants too, i instead find out hes watching it often without me. what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2011): I think you should stop pressuring him to watch porn with you. Not to use the whole cliche "he's just being a guy" but in this case...he kind of is. Me and my boyfriend watch porn together and sometimes we watch it on our own. I honestly wouldn't want to know what kind of sites he's looking at...Masturbation is private and personal. And if I did know, it probably would make me feel insecure. This is one of those times where ignorance is bliss.
I think maybe you should drop it for a while and stop worrying about it. For women I think the problem isn't the porn, it's the insecurity that comes along with it. Porn is full of big breasted bimbos and fantasies. That isn't reality. The only thing I think you should have to worry about is if he was looking at homosexual sites or chatting live with other women. If he's just watching videos to masturbate to, he isn't doing you any harm. You need to put some more trust in your man and let him have some privacy before you push him away or into an affair.
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reader, Battista  +, writes (21 June 2011):
Just a question, why is making you worried about him cheating on you in the future? Has he done so already in your relationship?
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