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writes:Hi there I am really in need of some advice and possibly just pointing me in the right direction! I have been with my boyfriend for about 4 months and it's going really well. He was recently made redundant but has quite a bit of money and wants to head away travelling for a few months before he starts a new career. I on the other hand have just started a new career and he said he would love me to come with him but right now its not a good time for me. So we could just stay together while he goes and does his thing! We have known each other for a few years before we got together. I am very worried though if there is much point in us staying together when he is going to go away although a few months is not a long time. We do respect and trust each other very much but I am wondering if anyone else has been in this situation? I got a bit upset when he told me he wants to go away as I will miss him. I need to handle this the right way and I am unsure how to. Thank you!
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reader, Caring Aunty A  +, writes (24 February 2013):
 It’s understandable that you’d miss him… and feel a bit insecure about your relationship. However this is just one of those things that happen in life where timing is out of sync for both of you to travel.
Although if there is nothing stopping you; I’d take the opportunity of meeting him for a couple of weeks somewhere in his journey. As he said; …he would love you to come with him. Therefore there should be no need to worry!? This is something I’ve had to apply and suggest with my partner; who can’t always get time off from work etc.
Since you have known each other a few years before getting together and have mutual respect and trust; that’s a reassuring bonus.
Take Care
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (24 February 2013):
My brother went away for months at a time, every year. His gf was accepting but probably not happy.
Things were fine when he got back.
The bottom line is that this is possibly a once in a lifetime opportunity for him, so don't hold him back. If your relationship was meant to survive, it will.
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