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*raddee
writes:My boyfriend said he was single without consulting me the other day after we had a small bicker on Facebook because I'm on vacation for 3 weeks. He's been depressed lately and someone was obviously flirting with him but he scolded me for suggesting that. So a friend asked what was up, he said he was single to her. I was tired of feeling sad, lonely, unattractive, uninteresting and clingy. He would cut our conversations short, wouldn't say he loved me first, he 'kinda' missed me, and he accused me of being clingy, because I thought couples were meant to talk or message each other at least once a day, I love him and I'm so so so happy when he responds to me. Lately I feel unloved and I feel like a pest, he's been very depressed, he has no job prospects and barely any family/money/friends. My family is middle class and I have a comfortable life.So I told him to choose; whether to stick with me and let him help his future and try my best to make him happy. Or if he feels I'm a burden then I'll leave him, and cut all contact permanently because I can't deal with the rejection and just being friends, plus I'd hate myself if I made him unhappy.Do you think I was right to say this? We've been together for 2.5 years and it'd kill me to leave him, but if he would be happier and healthier I would be more than willing to let him let me go.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (19 April 2011):
 if you feel unloved and like a pestand he says he's single.it's pretty much time to end it formally.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2011): I'm sorry to here this. You are obviously just trying to be a good girlfriend to him and yes, couples are meant to talk, so don't feel bad about that.Men respond to distance though, not words, so you stand much better chanse, if you don't message him and give him space to figure out what he wants and come to you in his own time. If he loves you then, no doubt, be will come back. If he doesn't, then count your self lucky, that you don't have to be someones second best. That leaves you open to finding someone, who thinks the world of you and feels, lucky and blessed to have you as their girlfriend. If he's put himself as single then take it as that! Their is no one person that you can not live with out! You might want him but you don't need him so i would move on
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reader, dirtball +, writes (19 April 2011):
 Honestly, if he is telling people he's single, it's already over. I think you should make it official. Wanting daily contact isn't asking too much. If he needs some space, he can request it without being a douche. Especially after 2.5 years.
He's pushing you away. You can offer to help, but if he keeps pushing, then you need to go away. Good luck!
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