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writes: Hi, I'm 18 and me and my boyfriend who is 19 have been dating for about 7 months. We have talked it over and feel that we are both ready for sex. I'm a virgin while my bf is not so we thought starting with oral sex etc would ease me into it and bring us closer. The other week my bf fingered me and it felt great but there is one thing that made me think. After he said I was really, really tight more so than other girls he had been with even ones who were virgins. I asked him if this was a good or bad thing but he said maybe and just laughed and smiled. What did he mean by maybe and Is a really tight vagina a good or bad thing and if it is should I do something about before we have sex ?
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reader, lily13524  +, writes (10 April 2011):
 Well hun,once you are relax and wet enough down there you should not have a problem.And maybe you should consider your boyfriend to be gentle on your very first time having sex.
If you are still worrying about not being wet enough you can always get some lubricant.
Good Luck :D
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (10 April 2011):
 Basically a very good thing, but a "tight" vagina preferably requires abundant sexual stimulation in order to produce adequate natural vaginal lubrication, which should allow reasonably comfortable penetration. In simple words, if you are really turned-on, and "wet," then your first time should be ok.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2011): Hi my boyfriend and I were in the exact same position as you are now. Before we had sex, he used to finger me and actually told me that I was the tighter than any other girl he'd been with but he told me that was a good thing.
So speaking from experience it is a good thing, but this also means that it might make your first time more painful like it did for me. Just make sure that you have lots of lubrication and are relaxed when you do it :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2011): it's NOT a bad thing! Now, if you're so tight that you can't enjoy it, or he can't penetrate you it may require a trip to the Dr. to check out the situation, but this is VERY RARE!If you want, go buy a small dildo and practice. Buy one off the internet if you can't get a GF to go to a sex shop with you. These days most all condom shops sell them.
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reader, wiseoldman  +, writes (10 April 2011):
The first time ANYONE has sex is a problem just because it's all so new. No-one ever had any fun learning to ride a bicycle or play tennis either. The first time it was actually available to me (1973), with a girl who was (amazingly) actually willing, not only wasn't it much fun for either of us, but I also tripped over the cat and the just-unwrapped condom which I'd been saving so hopefully for about a year and which I now was finally going to use flew out of my hand and went under the bed, and when I retrieved it it was covered in dustbunnies. Then my parents came home and we got dressed so quickly she left her bra on the floor of my room in full view.
Now that you realize your first sex can't possibly be as bad as that, the important thing is to have a place where you won't be disturbed, and can relax so that you won't be tense when A encounters B. Use some sort of lubrication (a brand called Eros is a bit expensive but really good- you can order it on Amazon. And above all, try to relax and remember it does get better as you get used to one another and sex in general.
I wish I'd known all of this myself for my first time, but wasn't thinking terribly clearly because the abovementioned cat had practically bitten my ankle to the bone.
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