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writes:I moved in with my "boyfriend" about 1 year ago and about 1 year after we started to date each other. He is 45 and when we first got together told me he was a virgin...the sex life was great for the first year and we had sex 6-7 times each week. After I moved in with him though, for the past 12 months we only have sex about once every 3 months and even then, I initiate it. He tells me he has just lost his libido. However, every night before he joins me in bed, he goes into the bathroom and loudly jerks way off...What is going on???
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reader, onceagirl +, writes (10 November 2007):
Sometimes I do this in relationships. In my situation I felt like my partner wasn't interested in pleasing me or couldn't/wouldn't please me the way that I wanted. I am an extremely sexual person and I've tried just about everything. It could be that he has fetishes that he doesn't feel comfy talking and sharing with you. It could be that you've let yourself go? Work on your appearance if so. Tan, do your makeup and hair. Buy sexy outfits or wear lingerie under ur clothes so when you take off ur clothes he wonders if you're more of a sex machine than him. Maybe let HIM catchMost of all, act like you're not doing it on purpose! Be nonchalant about it. DON'T initiate sex. if u need to be intimate, cuddle with him. Guys want what they can't have! Make him chase you! People are at all different levels sexually. It could be he feels you don't please him so if the above doesn't work
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reader, Avaida +, writes (10 November 2007):
Masturbation is personal. You know exactly what you like, and exactly how to get yourself off. But it's still sex, and if he's masturbating nightly, he's got a sex drive. Try initiating sex more often. And don't wait for bedtime, after he's already masturbated, to do so. Wake up before he does, and wake him up with a little surprise.
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