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female
age
30-35,
*issesConfused
writes:Okay, so now I have a new problem. . .I'm still with my boyfriend, who can be a real jerk at times when he pokes fun at me for being book smart and is starting to flirt with other girls. Sometimes, I go days at a time where I just don't talk to him, but then he always apologizes, makes the claim that he loves me, and gives me some gift. But I don't know, somehow it (the gift) feels like a bribe to get me to forigve him. Regardless, I forgive him because I do really like him a lot, but then he makes the same mistakes.But then I have my best friend who I've known since pre-school, and he's UBER weird sometimes. He hangs around with a lot of different girl, and it's been awhile where he's just had one girlfriend; he's the furthest thing from being a virgin. Yeah, I know. He's a pig. He gets into a lot trouble But he's been with me through everything, and vice versa. For my birthday last year, he even wrote me a song on how great he thinks I am.Lately, I've been feeling different about him. It's just this constantly growing feeling that WON'T GO AWAY, and it's driving me insane! At the same time, I like the feeling. My soul just lights up whenever I picture his smile, but I'm not stupid. This is probably a crush, and will pass soon.Right?I don't know. While I'm into my current boyfriend, I'm pretty certain it won't last. But it's different with my best friend. I've always thought of him as my soul mate, only in a platonic sense. Now that my feelings for him are changing, I'm confused now. I don't want to be that movie cliche where the two best friends eventually fall each other, but UGH! He makes it so hard not to like him, except when he brags about whoever he 'did it' with. . . (If he's trying to make me jealous or something, it's working.)Should I break up with my current boyfriend for my best friend, who may not even feel the same way? Or do I just go with the flow, and see where things take me? It really sucks to be young.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2009): I think the most important thing for you to analyze is whether you want to be with your current boyfriend. Are you with him because you don't want to risk being alone? The best friend really shouldn't be a part of your decision. If you are not dedicated to your current boyfriend, part with him.
If you do part with him, pursue the relationship with your friend. I wouldn't let him know my feelings at this point and would wait until he gives you definite signs of his interest.
I don't think he is bragging about his quests to make you jealous. He is telling them because he is your best friend. He knows you have a boyfriend at this point. If you are not with a boyfriend, he may become more interested.
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