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36-40,
anonymous
writes: My boyfriend is still talking to his ex ! does he have the right to do this ? We started dating each other’s about 6 weeks ago, In the beginning we liked each other’s a lot, we could not get enough from each other . We used to meet constantly and really enjoyed each other. One week later things changed for no reason at all. I started to wonder what went wrong, where is the nice guy, why he is not responding to my messages and not talking to me ! he disappeared. I decided to move on , but he came back after few days excusing that he was busy and many things were facing him , I was happy that he is back ! because I really liked him. But his behavior was not the same ! he wasn’t the same guy, I felt that he is so cold and unaffected !One night we decided to spend the night out, but then he excused saying that he can’t make it was disappointing, but I found out later that he went to meet his ex and he still talk to her. one of his friend told me ( listen you’re a nice girl and I don’t want to disappoint you but your bf is still seeing his ex , he cant get over her ! he cant move on and he is taking you as a backup plan) I faced him with this and he didn’t deny but he said its over with her now , there is nothing in my heart towards her, only I want to maintain the friendship ! we argued a lot , my point is that you cant be a friend with your ex. doesn’t sound right ! At this point I decided to end this and to move on ! but he came and proposed marriage, he brought a ring for me and told me its over with my ex and I want you only no one but you ! this was so fast and not sure why he is doing this ! I told him that I have to think about this ! its too early ! Last night I found out that he is texting his ex? i asked him to justify? he said she is my friend and if you ever bring this issue i`ll leave you !!!What should I do? how to find out if he really wants me or just playing with me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2015): He is a certified player, and you are very naive for your age.
You don't propose to someone six weeks into a relationship. You also fall too hard in a short period of time. That spells disaster!
He's talking to his ex; because that's what players do.
He's a total fraud, and you're falling for it.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (16 May 2015):
 He SAID this: "...he came and proposed marriage, he brought a ring for me and told me its over with my ex and I want you only no one but you !"
But he DID this: "...I found out later that he went to meet his ex and he still talk to her."
Better to be cautious, and NOT accept his marriage proposal... since you can put that behind you a LOT easier than plowing in to that marriage... and THEN, finding out that he is a lying, conniving creep.... and you have to get out of a MARRIAGE to get away from him...
Give him 6 months to "come clean"... and then you and he can talk as if you are starting anew...
Good luck...
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (16 May 2015):
 Eh, dump him.
He is NOT done with the ex, you have ONLY been together for 6 week, DON'T waste more time on him.
A proposal means nothing and it is WAY too soon to propose after ONLY 6 weeks, that is ridiculous.
He wants his cake (you) and eat it too (the ex gf).
LET HIM have the ex. YOU deserve better than some guy who disappear on you and dismiss you when you ask what's up with the ex..
CUT him lose - don't get dragged into their drama.
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