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writes:Looking for some advice!! I'm a 47yr old woman who it seems has got a realtionship all wrong again..or have I? Maybe its me??!! I'm with a guy who's 50..he runs his own business..and he is very financially sound. He likes to let me know of this...in everyway he can, e.g by telling me its HIM that pays for any weekends we have away..its HIM that pays when we go out for a meal. Over the course of last 2 years..the emense stress this causes me is now becoming quite apparent, but for him..he just doesnt see how his behaviour is affecting me. I'm losing weight..feeling nauseous etc etc.I have tried to talk to him..saying he makes me feel "beholden" to him as my job is not so well paid as his. His reply is that I should be feel "very lucky to be with such a clever guy"!!!! I dont know what to do now..as am not happy. I thought the idea of being with someone you love..living together...was to be able to share everything, financially too.Would appreciate any advise anyone has..or been in a similar situation. thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks so much for all your advice. Think I already knew the answer in my heart of hearts.. if you understand what I mean.
Will now sort so I dont feel like this anylonger..thanks again.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (6 October 2010):
I think you should just ditch this guy. What's the point in being with someone who's just going to treat you this way. He sounds like my father, who is a nightmare like that.
Don't take this. Ditch him.
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reader, yaytentacles  +, writes (6 October 2010):
 Well, if you aren't happy with him I say either:
A.) Call him out on his issue
or
B.) Kick him to the curb.
Obviously, he enjoys the fact that he is so wealthy (and incredibly egotistical), but this stresses you out. It kind of seems like you have an inferiority complex; perhaps tell him that you are sensitive to the fact that you don't provide enough and see how that goes. If he's a good boyfriend, he'll understand and try to fix his insensitive spewing.
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