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writes:Who to choose parents or partner? I am in the edge of taking the biggest and hardest decision of my life.i am with my boyfriend since 1 year,i am a mauritian and he is indian we met in uk and we moved together. We love each other like crazy.My problem is that my visa is expiring and got to go back to my country and he will go soon after as there is no job prospect in uk at the moment.I got to go and look after my parents in mauritius and he got to join his dad business and support them in india.We both want to marry each other but the problem is our family ties. Our culture says the girl has to move to hes husband place after marrying and that mean in my case i got to move to a totally different country??? sorry for sounding so orthodox...He does not mind to come and settle in mauritius but same like me he got responsibilities back home.And none of our parents know about us going out together, they would probably wont mind whichever country we decide to live but they would have to live by themselves with none of their children with them .I really dont want to lose him as he is my Mr Right.I met other guys in the past and never felt so intense love to none of them. And at the same time i dont want to make my parents or his parents suffer as parents wont be always here so we have to spend as much time we could with them, but i want to raise my own family too???Please advise. Reply to this Question
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reader, sasha2010 +, writes (29 October 2010):
sasha2010 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you for your help and advise.
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reader, Alwaysunsure189  +, writes (7 October 2010):
Why don't to talk to your parents about it? I am from an entirely different culture, so excuse me please if I say something that wouldn't work, in the end I just hope it all works out for you. :)
You said your parents wouldn't mind that you are together...that's very good!! There does come a point in time when you have to detach a bit from your family and start your own. Thank goodness technology is so wonderful, maybe you could skype daily? That would make the difference seem less. Or could you move to somewhere more in-between? Then both of you move and are only half(ish) of the distance to family so you could visit more often, take turns on which family you see during holiday maybe?
If you love each other it will somehow work out for you. Or maybe you will decide that it isn't meant to be afterall. Sorry if I wasn't much help, I tried :)
Good luck!!!
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