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writes:Hi, my name is Jessica. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost four months and recently he has told me he has a cross dressing fetish. He was really scared to tell me about it but I made sure to make him feel like I'll love him no matter what. I've been trying to be very accepting but apart of me is just baffled. I've been very stressed with some things going on and this just really hit me hard. I don't know why I didn't see this coming. He always dropped subtle hints like "let me wear your lingerie" or "I'd be a hot girl". I thought nothing of it. I feel wrong that apart of me doesn't want to accept it but I'm trying my best. I'm not sure what to do honestly. He has told me he is not gay several times. I believe him. I just need more information and to know I'm not alone. It's just really strange now because he sends me pictures of dresses he likes and he has a good taste but it feels weird. Like, I never really knew him or like I don't even know him. Ugh. Reply to this Question
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (7 August 2014):
 You have only been dating for 4 months. Cross dressing is just one aspect of his life. You have to decide, when time passes if he has good qualities that shine in spite of this weird fetish he has. I won't be turned on by a guy wearing lingerie. I would let a guy know that so he won't feel his efforts were in vain. In fact they are in vain but at least I have to show some support that he's allowed to do whatever makes him happy. He's trying to get in touch with his feminine side. This idea will sound weird at first but if you look into reasons why people crossdress maybe you can understand them better. Research articles about androgyny. He does not do this simply to weird you out. He wants you to know the deeper side of this, beneath that girly garment lies a soul that wants to understand and experience the other side.
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