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writes:Well the start of this month I met my boyfriend and started dating him.. I haven't seen him for three weeks. I'm so used to seeing guys that I date a lot. But I hardly see my boyfriend I'm not sure whether to feel fine to miss him or if I am stupid because it's only been three weeks. I don't really talk to people about how I feel when he's away because he is mainly the one I trust.. My family know I like him but as he's already toured they are a bit iffy so I don't think they know I'm going out with him, but I really miss him. I am only meant to see him weekends. But he's spent the past 3 weekends on camp so I haven't seen him. I've hardly even talked to him on text or the phone. I honestly think I'm going a bit crazy because of how much I miss him. Is this normal even though he's only been away for three weeks?:/ do army relationships work?
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reader, facethefacts  +, writes (28 September 2013):
 Long Distance can work.. Its not for the faint hearted - you have to relax into it. I would try not to fantasise too much in the beginning and keep it real. Save your heart for as long as possible.. At the moment what you probably feel is very strong attraction and passion for this guy. Hes new to you and exciting etc but so are you to him.. Use the distance through, Skype, Email Text etc to really get to know him, learn about his life and let him learn about you. Long distance has its advantages here. Only fools rush in - they can work and work well.. but they take time and commitment especially if you are going to go through many months of not seeing eachother.. I too am in an LDR for the past two years... takes stamina - good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2013): There's always exceptions but I know someone who had been with her partner for a long long time since they were teens, he reached his mid 20's and joined the army. Before he left they married, they were what people considered a strong relationship. They had split up within a year.
They, out of most people, should have lasted this but it proved too testing. I think you should enjoy being young without the worry of where he is, if he's ok etc...
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (25 September 2013):
 So you met him and he immediately had to go do his service.
you are a mere 16/17 years old and barely know this young man
I think that teens are not cut out for long distance relationships.
IN addition, if you are 16/17 and he's military and has already toured how much older than you is he?
missing someone you know and love is normal. I did an LDR with my now husband and while we thought we could manage being apart for two years... after one year of weekends only (and we had EVERY weekend) he gave up his apartment and moved to be with me.
Of course Army relationships work. But to be honest I don't hold out much hope for this one... you guys just didn't have enough foundation to build on before he left.
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